Recognizing The Signs Of A Toxic Relationship
Recognizing The Signs Of A Toxic Relationship
While the relationship you share with your partner may have once seemed like the epitamy of a perfect relationship, after time has passed, you may have begun to wonder if it really is all you've cracked it up to be. As of lately, perhaps, you've recognized that you are just not all that happy where you are with your partner. The fact that you are questioning your relationship is cause for concern all by itself, but you may need to take a closer look at your relationship and your partner to recognize the possibility that you may even be in a toxic relationship.
Firstly, what is a toxic relationship? Well, to put it in the very simplest of terms, a toxic relationship is one in which your happiness and/or well-being is being sacrificed. In other words, instead of helping to fulfill your life as a healthy relationship should, one of a toxic nature tends to drag you down or steer you away from leading the life that you want for yourself.
So, how do you know when you are the victim of one? Answering the following questions may help you in recognizing the signs of a toxic relationship and whether or not you are in one, yourself:
1 - Does your partner put you down or belittle you either when you are alone or when around other people?
2 - Does your partner call or text you often simply to keep track of your whereabouts?
3 - Does your partner assure you that he/she loves you, but his or her actions point to the contrary?
4 - Does your partner read your mail, e-mail, text messages on your phone, or otherwise snoop through your things?
5 - Does your partner try to keep you from spending time with or even talking to your friends and family?
6 - Does you partner try to keep you dependent upon him/her such as by encouraging you not to work or continue your education?
7 - Do you feel like nothing you do is good enough for your partner, that your opinions are always wrong or unimportant in his or her eyes?
8 - Do you feel as though you have to avoid sharing your feelings and opinions with your partner for fear of upsetting him/her?
9 - Have you changed your own personality or anything about yourself in order to please your partner even though you may not have wanted to?
10 - Has your self-esteem dropped since you and your partner got together or does your partner make you feel as though you are unattractive and/or degrade you?
11 - Does your partner accuse you of cheating or does he/she show signs of jealousy for no legitimate reason?
12 - Do you feel stressed or depressed about your relationship?
If you've answered yes to any of these questions, then it is quite possible that you are the victim of a toxic relationship. It can be difficult for some people to get out of these unhealthy relationships for a number of reasons. Individuals that already suffer from low self-esteem or depression often remain with a toxic partner simply because they feel as though they do not deserve any better, or worse, that they are the one who is at complete fault for the state of the relationship. Other people stay in such a relationship because they feel the need to take care of others.
If you are in a toxic relationship, recognize it for what it is. Talking to trusted family members and friends about your problems can help or, in some cases, the help of counseling may be needed. More importantly, if you feel as though you are in physical danger, then you should seek professional help immediately.
In the end, you know yourself better than anyone else, and that includes knowing your own needs. If changes in your relationship need to be made, then the only changes that you have any real control over are those that you make to yourself. Take steps. Let your partner know that you are unhappy, and you are no longer willing to settle for the relationship as it is right now. If your partner is unwilling to make any changes of his/her own, then you must be willing to cut your losses and walk.
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