Relationship Breakdown Is Like A Bereavement!

Breaking up with a long-time partner sometimes can seem like a bereavement! If you've recently been dumped, do try to figure out what happened.

It could be painful, but unless you understand what happened to your relationship, you won't be able to alter matters in the foreseeable future. Make use of it as a learning experience, so that you can recognize what went wrong and build self-awareness. Then you are better equipped for future relationships.

Hence interaction is obviously the answer to managing a break-up. However if your ex-partner simply blanks you and won't discuss, you may have to communicate with other people. Request the support of friends, relatives - or even the specialists. Not all relationships have fairytale endings - however there are strategies to survive You have been rejected big time, you feel angry and alone, you want help. You can go to relationship counselling by yourself - about a third of Couple Counselling Scotland's (CCS) customers are there alone, says chief executive Hilary Campbell. And a warning from Ms Campbell on the matter of talking - if you are even now communicating with your ex-partner, set aside the e-mails and texts for the practicable stuff, and do not be inclined to use them to discuss your feelings. You can't portray feelings with them, they're black and white and they may be there evermore. Whereas if you say somewhat and it sounds incorrect you can refine it, and refute it - a bit. It's a lot less complicated to speak about emotions face to face.

If you've been dumped, it really is easy to flail about blaming everyone - your ex, yourself, the person you suspect them of having an affair with, and so on. But if you able to steer clear of this, says Relate. It may look tempting but this will not help you work out why the affair has occurred. And instead of blaming yourself, work on boosting your self-esteem. If your self-confidence is shot to pieces, you may be able to set out to heal yourself with simple measures like pampering yourself with a reward, reminding yourself of better times and everything you've been doing well at, and setting yourself small goals to achieve.

But how about revenge? Should you give in to your impulse to slash up your ex's suits, post nasty messages about them on websites, leak things about them to the media or other such matters? Is that cathartic and curative, or otherwise? Relate maintains that relies upon on the degree to which you interpret it. It is good for your health to be infuriated, it's part of the bereavement process and it can be good to have a spit and a shout, if it is done in a safe way. However it can be really nasty and that's not such a worthy thing. Never slag him off to his friends, never get into a War of the Roses type of thing. Blame them in a safe atmosphere, but do not throw out the baby with the bathwater.

There is now obtainable a book known as 'The Magic of Making Up' which has assisted virtually 60000 people around the world to repair their relationship and go on to enjoy years of contentment together.

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