Repair your relationship by taking baby steps instead of a leap of faith

If you have gone through an agonizing break up

, your mind probably isn't thinking too clearly or rationally. There's a high probability that your mind is rushing around looking for things to do repair your relationship. Making decisions and take action in those first few days after your break up, you will probably wind up making things worse instead of better. If you really want to discover how to get a woman back, here's the solution. Take it slow and use baby steps instead of taking a leap of faith.

I've been happily married for 21 years. I've been involved in the marriage and wedding business for the past 10 years. I've seen many men and women that I could tell were going to be together forever and I've seen couples that had no business getting married. After investing a lot of time in finding out what makes men and women "click" I think I've got a really easy to follow formula to use when you're trying to learn how to get a woman back.

Big steps never work. Let's establish that right up front. Calling your woman (or, heaven forbid, try to text her in this world today where technology can't convey emotion) and say that you deserve to get back together, you can forget it. Not gonna happen. From her point of view, she just called it quits with you so why would she want to consider getting back together with you? Trying to get right to the end game from day one isn't going to be very successful. Relationship repair has to be a slow, gradual process. You have to re-bond with each other and think about what it was that brought you two together originally. Getting back together now means, according to her, "I'm wrong. He and I can go back to where things were and everything will be hunkey dorey."

Instead, try to let things happen more naturally. Remember the old saying, how do you eat an elephant? 1 bite at a time. Take just a bite instead of a whole elephant. Let some time pass (perhaps a couple weeks?) and give her a telephone call (under no circumstance should you do this via text messages). Ask her if she'd like to go get coffee after work. This should be really a non-threatening way to start to get her thinking about you again. Just meet her on neutral grounds (like a coffee shop) and just simply talk. Don't go into it expecting to repair your relationship right away. Instead, just talk and have coffee. Try to use this time to see if the "passion" is still there and use that as something to build on, over time. Slow and steady wins the race.

Remember, if you've recently gone through a break up, you will probably feel vulnerable and have lots of negative emotions swirling through your head. It's critically important to come to terms with the reality that there is no way you are going to cure that all at once. Only through a slow and steady healing process will you be able to return to normal. Do not allow yourself to give in to the temptation to fix the problem in one big leap of faith. Chances are the reason for your break up didn't happen all at one time. Fixing it certainly isn't going to happen that way either.

Repair your relationship by taking baby steps instead of a leap of faith

By: Lynn Taylor

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