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Save Your Marriage Now: Top 3 Ways to Rekindle the Love
truggling in your marriage? Nobody said marriage would be easy
, but fortunately there are ways to make it SIMPLER and more manageable. In fact, look at these struggles as an opportunity to make your marriage BETTER and more romantic. Here are 3 proven ways to revive the love and save your marriage now! It's worked for my wife and me, so I hope it works for you as well.1) Remove the 'D' word as an option! As soon as the word "divorce" is thrown around, you might as well just go find your divorce lawyers, because you're inviting it in as an option. If you're serious about your marriage surviving, DO NOT even mention divorce as an option! This is something that has really helped my wife and me in our marriage. Throw out the bad language, and throw out the seven-lettered divorce word. It's as bad as swearing! Want to know what word you SHOULD use instead? How about the a seven-lettered F word: FORGIVE. Nothing heals a marriage quite like forgiveness, and when husband and wife TELL each other that he or she is forgiven, you'll quickly see positive change. It's an amazing, transforming word, forgive. Practice forgiveness in your marriage, and be amazed at the change.
This leads me to a second, most invaluable guideline for saving your marriage, and that is:
2) Don't go to bed angry with each other! My wife and I made this a rule in our marriage, and man, has it made a difference! Not allowing the sun to go down without forgiving one another, and trying to resolve differences, has added to our happiness and made our marriage so much stronger. It also builds the bonds of trust and commitment in a relationship, and even adds to the intimacy. Who doesn't love making up?
Try it out yourselves. Whether you're spiritual or not, you can't argue with wisdom, and the book of Ephesians in the Bible has it:
"Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry." - Ephesians 4:26
Our marriage is also built on these wise words: "Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry." - James 1:19 Also be quick to FORGIVE. This is a whole lesson in itself, but it's vitally important. The Save Your Marriage Today course shows you exactly how to apply this to your life, and how to find revived long and stronger marriage through forgiveness. Highly recommended! And again, you don't even have to be a Christian to see the power behind forgiveness! Whether it's marriage, friendship, or your relationship with your kids or parents, forgiveness heals many, many wounds. Being quick to apologize, of course, is also essential! Please, friends, be able to ADMIT YOUR FAULTS and say sorry when necessary. While you're learning to deal with anger and forgive, please keep in mind the final way to save your marriage and revive the love:
3) Define Boundaries! Boundaries are essential. We all know marriage involves sacrifice, so why not agree with each other and what not to talk about?
Make sure you set your limits as to what can and cannot be talked about. If there is a topic that ALWAYS drives you both to fighting, such as the husband playing golf on Sundays, learn when and when not to talk about it. AVOID UNNECESSARY ARGUMENTS!!!
And as I said above, agree on the boundary of NOT giving divorce a chance. That's something you must BOTH agree not to do. Agree on this one boundary, and the others will become easier to manage.
Remember this: Avoiding certain conversations is NOT being weak. Restraining your tongue isn't always easy, but it shows how strong and committed you are when you refuse to hurt your partner. When a marriage is marked by boundaries, forgiveness, and the removal of divorce as an option, I promise this to you, your wife or husband, your kids, and even your friends who have to deal with you: Everybody wins!!
Save Your Marriage Now: Top 3 Ways to Rekindle the Love
By: Ethan Parker