Short? You can still be a Ladies Man!
Short? You can still be a Ladies Man!
Short? You can still be a Ladies Man!
I recently got this next question:
Hi emma, i tried using a topic starter many time before. But i am not very good at it. I dont feel that confident. But i usually forcemyself into asking a question. Like "Hey I read that book too".
Im moderatley ok looking, and i am kind of short(5'7), but i tend to be attracted to only very good looking women. So i get scared .
I have to first tell you this: being short is NOT a disadvantage. In fact, I know many guys that are shorter than you but are totally unstoppable. Those guys know how to USE their stature in a way that benefits rather than hurts their game. More on that later.
Secondly: if you're not feeling confident when you deliver any line, it isn't likely to work. In fact, the way you feel when talking to women is the most important thing.
I think what's holding you back right now is a big case of what some people call "approach anxiety". Since you like good looking girlsbut you think that you're too short, you already believe that they won't be attracted to you. Then, when you try to talk to them, they sense that you're not confident and that actually keeps them from feeling attracted to you. So the first step is realizing that being short is not a hinderance. Don't drink that kool-aid.
Here are a few tips that might help you out.
1. When you walk into a bar, imagine you own it. How would you walk and talk? How would you feel? A lot more confident, right? Embrace THAT feeling.
2. If you feel like tip #1 is too ambitious, start smaller. "Own" a starbucks, for example. If even that seems like too much, "own" the mall as you walk around. Notice people's reactions to you when you feel like you're the coolest guy around. Being short, by the way, means that "owning" a room in this fashion is even more attractive. Why? Because it means that even with being short, you realize that you have so much to offer. It suggests that you have an awesome personality and that you love yourself just the way you are. And that, my friend, is an irresistible quality. Additionally, when a huge body builderwalks around like he owns the place, he might come off as too aggressive. But not you. And another side note while we're on the topic. A short man can pull off a lot riskier openers because he isn't as threatening to men or women. I have a good friend that comes up to women at the bar who are standing with a man. He smiles and says "so, are you and your brother having a fun night?" Now, I don't know if I advise you use that line, but you get my drift.
3. Even though you're only attracted to good looking girls, practice when you go out. Have a few conversations with people that you're not very attracted to before talking to women that you find attractive. You can talk to the bartender, girls that are just okay looking, and guys. Yes. Even guys. The reason this works is that it gets you warmed up and makes you seem very friendlyand social. Even the most successful playboys practice, so you should too.
4. Keep in mind that even the best pickup artistsget rejected. They probably got rejected a lot more times than you have. But they also got a lot more women than you have. Why? Well, if you're only trying to talk to one or two women a night, you're not talking to enough women. That's the way to get better at it. It's a numbers game.
5. Lastly, don't make your intentions clear right away. Show her you're a high-value, friendly guy FIRST and only hit on her after that. If you try to hit on a girl before she realizes how cool you are, she's not having it. Instead, you're just making conversation. You're just being friendly. You might only be interested in her as a friend. Once a woman thinks you're "the man" she is likely to pursue you!
6. If I knew just what you were doing maybe I could make my advice more specific. If you think you need an hour of coaching you can buy one on my website. They're $49.99 each and end up being a lot cheaper than a night out buying girls' drinks!
Good luck and let me know how this works out!
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