Should I make excuses to my alcoholic husband's boss?
The problem with that logic, and the advice, is that it only takes one negative consequence
and one person into account, the drinker and his discomfort of having to make his own excuses. There are more people in this scenario than just the drinker; there is the partner and often the rest of the family to consider as well. A consequence of not making the phone call could be that he gets sacked. Then who is paying the consequences of his drinking? It is not just the drinker that would suffer the negative effects then. If he is the only, or the major, wage earner then the family's finances will be reduced and the whole family would suffer. So be careful and think carefully before you make the decision. It is advisable not to shield him from the negative consequences of his actions but it is not sensible to have your family or you suffer with him. It is wise to be practical and take others into account. If on the other hand you have your own income or the income of the drinker is unimportant to the family's finances then it is an easy decision. Don't phone the boss!
Should I make excuses to my alcoholic husband's boss?