Simple Things You Can Do To Save Your Marriage After Cheating
Simple Things You Can Do To Save Your Marriage After Cheating
After cheating there are all kinds of things you can probably thing of to do to save your marriage. Some of them are elaborate and expensive while others are difficult to implement. Still others are simply unrealistic unless you can do the whole Superman fly around the earth to turn back time thing. Unfortunately, super powers are probably not in your arsenal of tools to use for this purpose.
But that doesn't mean your status as a mere mortal means that you can't come up with a few great ideas that are sure to be successful when it comes to your efforts to save your marriage after cheating.
Of course, it helps if you remember a few important facts first. One great fact to keep in mind is that somewhere, deep down inside, your spouse probably wants your marriage to work too.
That doesn't mean that he or she isn't completely devastated, more than a little angry, and a whole lot of hurt over the fact that you cheated. Most people don't handle being cheated on very well. They say and do things they don't mean. They lash out in anger and from the pain of it all and say things they'd never say otherwise.
You have to take everything that is said and done at a time like this with a grain of salt.
The other thing to remember is that your spouse still has a lot of love for you. The flames may be flickering and the walls are definitely coming up but that doesn't change the fact that your spouse loves you. It isn't something that could be easily "turned off."
This means you have two things working in your favor before you've made your opening move. Here's what you need to do next to make sure you don't lose any ground.
Make Amends
It's not enough to just apologize. You need to make amends with your spouse for cheating. It's the only way he or she will be able to really gauge your sincerity.
Making amends is not the same thing as apologizing. Making amends means that you are actually making changes so that you'll never be in a position to cause the same harm again.
Taking action to change is the only real signs your spouse can see to believe you have changed. It's something that can be seen and it can give your spouse hope that he or she will never need to experience this sense of betrayal from you again.