Spiritual couple evolution: Where is my relationship going?
Spiritual couple evolution: Where is my relationship going
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Analyzed in the perspective of the zodiacal energies that a couple manifests as a whole...
What I want to present in the next few pages, isn't an astrological theory. It is a reality that couples live on a daily basis, moment by moment, asking themselves what are they doing wrong, why don't they have the kind of stability that would allow them to go together on the same road a longer, more fruitful period of time. Maybe some of us will recognize ourselves in these patterns, others will enjoy it as a beautiful story without searching for their place in it. However, I am sure that at least some of the information here will help you get closer to what you really desire in a relationship.
The 1st stage: Aries
In the Aries stage we first see each other, we have the contact long enough to awaken mutual interest, so that a feeling of being in love to be awakened inside of us. The feelings that are born between the two, are very intense, we come with a lot of desire and enthusiasm, we are like some spiritual warriors who aspire to the most sublime ideal we have ever met, we are ready to put into this battle all our resources, but... some get stuck in this early stage of the Aries. In order for a couple to pass this test, it takes the courage to dare living life in the present, to have the courage to throw themselves ahead like a ram does.
The 2nd stage:Taurus
If we take the baby steps, or, why not, ram hops at the end of the Aries stage, the first physical contact comes into play, those first touches, perhaps when we first get acquainted, the first body contacts, maybe a slight, friendly carressment, and slowly but surely, like the Taurus's style, the desire to have more of the other.The need for more physical contact comes up, we seek to approach each other with various reasons, the pleasure of sensing the perfume of the other or a cumbersome gesture arises an out of the ordinary deliciousness. As in the other stage, the test also occurs, if one of us starts putting pressure on the other, out of this need to have, without considering the other's needs, and instead of settling with what he or she gets, starts asking for more, it is more likely that our story would end here.
The 3rd stage:Gemini
The neverending talks on the phone and the teenag strolls are well known by all of us. The little gifts, games, and inocent jokes mark in a very sweet and pleasant way, this stage, in which verbal communication, knowing each other better, the talks about subjects more or less superficial become essential to get to the next stage. The trap of this teenage game is to remain at a superficial level, in which "I love you" are just some words, just some moments spent together playing, teasing each other and having fun, laughing about different subjects. Similarly, if we do not learn to adapt to the other's way of being, to his needs to understand and be understood, to his way of thinking, talking, joking, chances are, that one of the two, because of the fact that he or she feels misunderstood, will withdraw from the relationship. The depth that occurs through the flavor of this part of the road, takes us further along.
The 4th stage:Cancer
The delicious intimacy of a couple is the flavour that any human being that has relationship experience, aspires to. Getting this kind of intimacy means deepening the earlier stages of mutual knowledge, and even more, to be capable to open yourself emotionally, to be open to feed and to be fed through the other's being, spiritually. Many people don't get to enjoy this stage, mostly because of the past fears and emotional problems from the childhood or from past relationships that closed them emotionally. The fear of intimacy is a disease which affects many couples, although they are apparently very happy - and they really are happy, at the Gemini level- but we cannot say that we have met true intimacy until we are not able to become vulnerable as a child that abandons himself to his mother to be taken care of, and until we have the sense of responsability to which a human being can trust his life in our hands. Those who get to experiment this kind of intimacy, must also be attentive to emotional dependencies that can come up, that can also stop us from jumping to the next level.
The 5th stage:Leo
The identity of the couple begins to take shape and inside it, two identities are fighting. At this stage, the strenght of the couple's ego is clearly outlined by the fights of the individual egos that are trying to dominate. We have a tendency to fight for power, a game of prides appears, trying to take the lead. The humility and generosity are important keys for this phase. If in the conflicts none of us has the humility to give up the pride and have the consciousness to make the other peacefully understand that this attitude is a harmful one, the chances of the two breaking up because of the fights over the imaginary superiority, are big. The trust we have in each other, the generosity to put the other first, the royal, noble attitude of supportiveness to the other, are qualities that develop with a lot of humility and patience in a spiritual couple.
The 6th stage:Virgo
If we have got to this point, it means that the qualities that each person brings to the relationship are clarified, we have already established the roles, we trust each other, and we are ready to work shoulder to shoulder towards the same goal, most often a material one. Organization, the overcoming of fixed ideas and of mental patterns through which we are temped to look at the other person, are needed for this. The tendency is to observe all the defects of the other, to try to impose our own methods and ideas, a tendency toward perfectionism - obviously to our idea of perfection- arises. All of these leads to many missunderstandings, nagging, the impression that the other doesn't accept us as we are. To overcome this stage successfully it is necessary to know with all of our being that we are neither superior nor inferior, that no matter what the conflict is about, in fact things are simple and a constructive self-analysis is needed more than ever in order for us to correct our own behavioral mistakes and to move forward, together.
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The 7th stage:Libra
At last we have gotten to a place of harmony and balance, or at least this is our impression. The peace that now reigns, with no conflicts, everything going smooth, isn't necessarily the sign of a profoundly happy relationship. We can be satisfied about the fact that there are no conflicts, but this may be the sign of comprimises on one part or on the other, in order for waters to be still. It is a stage in which we can fall into the trap of wrongfully mirroring in the other and grounding their happiness on the apparent happiness of the other, but without a profound state of objective love. It's a stage through which you realize that you have the tendency of being the prisoner of the relationship "fashion" of this era, a superficial relationship where nobody follows their true and profound aspirations, fearing, hurting the other. When we will be able, in this stage, to see the other in all his splendor, with all his aspirations and fears, through this we become conscious of our own splendor, of our own fears and aspirations, it means that we have grown better than we were, together as a couple.
The 8th stage:Scorpio
The transformation processes that are born in this stage are not very comfortable. The two realize that it takes a leap and consequently the deepening of some aspects of the relationship. The erotic energy, used or not until now, becomes the source of attachments and terrible jealousies, or the cause of bothersome and stressful frustrations. It's a phase in which we must learn to use the erotic energy in a spiritual way, to be able to control and transmute it. If we fail to spiritualize the eros, and bring or bring back a certain magic in their relationship, the transformations that will occur can create irreparable ruptures between the two of us. It takes a lot of effort to overcome this stage, to harmonize your own erotic energy and the erotic energy in the couple. The transfiguration and the power to forgive are the key elements, and the capacity of the two to let some aspects of the relationship "die", for other aspects to be born, to save the love between the two. This stage can give a spiritual direction to the relationship, which then will result in a leap toward God.
The 9th stage:Sagittarius
Now we have found a spiritual orientation and each begins to develop his own philosophical system, he finds his own spiritual path and the talks and conflicts about the other one's truth, start. The tendencies to convert the other to your own truth can be distructive unless we have enough discernment to see beyond the dogma. The need to follow a common path as each follows his own truth, can only be accomplished by finding a spiritual master, to guide the two. As a couple, by the support and guidance of a master, they can find the way to channel the transmutated energies from the Scorpio stage, to a common spiritual ideal, to a higher truth that includes both their truths.
The 10th stage:Capricorn
The maturity achieved at this stage already supports a sustained effort to obtain the spiritual jumps they aspire to. It requires a constant practice, a lot of patience to enhance the experience obtained in the other stages. It's like a form of withdrawal, in which, the two are focused on the couple's responsability as a way of spiritual evolution, and the responsability towards the spiritual path they have chosen. They work together in a clearly oriented effort to achieve their spiritual goals.If they are patient enough, they will become a true source of spiritual energy for the others.
The 11th stage:Aquarius
The two are prepared to offer their gifts (more or less subtle) as a couple, to the world, by their love and unity, by their aspiration, polarization and by the maturity they have assimilated in the earlier stages. They thus become a permanent Divine relay by everything they are doing together, there is a state of spiritual friendship between the two, beyond the ordinary limits of a couple relationship, because it includes the experience of spiritual evolution and mutual support on a path to God. The polarization between the two is like a magnet for the others, it's like a Divine light that shines and charges with its presence everyone around them, and from now on, the Pisces stage begins.
The 12th stage:Pisces
They even go beyond this individuality of the couple and the feeling of perfect fusion with God in both of them and in everyone else, appears. From here, they live their unity in God, beyond the individuality of each of them, even this feeling of a "couple relationship" fades away, and a fusion with God as spirits lights up, in which they find God in all the manifested existence, beyond illusions and dogmas, beyond male and female, in a unity that was meant for all of us to live in.
Conclusion
We all go through these stage, more or less consciously, some of the stages are very short, others last for years. Usually they overlap, we move back and forth between two, or even three stages until we stabilise, go deeper and pass all the tests that come with each of them, but unfortunately most people get lost in the Leo stage, the evolutionary cycle after the Cancer phase. In most cases the ego and pride are powerful enough not to fail, and so, they get stuck in relationships in which one of the two lovers dominates and manipulates the other, having total control of the relationship.
Others, less in numbers then the previsious-ones, reach to the Scorpio stage, that is also a phase of very profound transformations, that not many have the aspiration to take responsability for, to see themselves with all their faults and weaknesses, to overcome the suffering in the name of pure, true, divine love.
The more we go through relationship experiences, the more they should help us grow, the more they should free us, getting higher and higher on our evolutionary spiral.
May God grant us all the aspiration and inspiration, to find that soul with whom we have the most harmony with and love, to take us as high as it is humanly posibile, through everything we do, live, feel and aspire, and we want to aid you in doing this by giving you the possibility to ask us questions about your lover and about yourself through your own spiritual astrology reading.
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