Every marriage will go through one period of turbulence or the other
. Separation from your spouse is not always the best option. Most marriages can be saved if the partners are ready to do what it takes to rekindle their love. If you still love your spouse and want to save your marriage, the following steps will help you achieve that goal.
1. Awareness
The first step to save your marriage is to practice awareness. Take time out to really look at your relationship objectively. Take pen and paper and write out the present situation and the events that have led to it. Make your observations as if you are an outsider. It might not be easy because of your emotional involvement but you have to do it. Don't deny the situation. Write out everything exactly as they re.
2. Acceptance
The next thing is to accept that you are where you are now in your relationship with your spouse. Acknowledge what the true problem is, not just the symptoms. You and your spouse are two different people with different emotions and behavior. Relationships work because the partners respond pleasantly to each other. When those responses become negative, the relationship starts developing problems.
3. Forgive
No matter who is at fault, you have to forgive and apologize to your partner. It could be painful but if you want to save your marriage, you have to remove all bitterness from your mind. Clear the slate and get ready to start afresh with your spouse.
4. Change Your Response
If you have been fighting, you have to stop the fights. Standing on your rights rigidly will not let your marriage work. Compromise is necessary for you to maintain any long term relationship with any body. Stop responding with arguments and harsh words. When your responses become more accommodating, you will open a line of communication with your spouse that will help you to resolve issues.
5. Reach Out
Reach out to your spouse with a gift that will show that you still value the marriage and are ready to do what it takes to move ahead. Create time for the two of you to be together to rekindle your love. It could be an outing once or twice a week where you talk only about each other as you used to do when your love was still strong.