If you're in the scene wherein your spouse is cheating on you
, you wish that it is just a bad dream, and that it will all be gone once you wake up. You wish there was a simple way to stop your spouse from cheating right away, but you can't figure it out. You wish you know how to make sure your spouse doesn't cheat again.
Take comfort in the fact that cheating spouses are usually not interested in ending the relationship. Sometimes cheating is about people wanting to have their cake and eat it too. But, for the most part these same people want to salvage their marriage or they would just leave. This means there is still love for you there.
Keep her busy making plans for the future, enjoying a satisfying and adventurous love life, and basking in the glow of your adoration and she'll be putty in your hands.
But how does this help you stop them from cheating?
oOnce you decide you want to work things out the next step is convincing your partner. As I mentioned above the odds are in your favor that your partner will want to be convinced to stay. This is great news for you. What it means is that you won't have to work hard to convince your partner to give your marriage another chance. Talk to your spouse about what's going on and what you'd like to see happen.
oGet help working through the rough patch. A marriage where one partner is cheating is not enjoying smooth sailing. You need to get your bearings and then figure out how to get back on course. Sometimes this deep soul searching will require a little help to get turned back around towards friendlier shores. Get counseling if you need it (as a couple and as individuals) to get down to the heart and soul of why your spouse is cheating.