Surviving The Agony Of Your Spouse's Affair

Surviving The Agony Of Your Spouse's Affair

Although it is a numbing reality, the full impact still has'nt really sunk home yet. Lost and directionless in a netherworld of doubt and shadows. Where reality,fantasy and uncertainty all melt together. Leaving you with no support No truth No map. And worst of all,no will to survive.

But you must survive. The debiliating agony of your loved one's affair is something you must leave where it belongs. In the past. In this column, I'll outline the steps you need to take to leave your twilight zone of misery and move ahead into the nourishing sunlight of hope.

The main positive step is to throw off the coat of "victim conciousness."Yes, you've suffered terrible pain. Agony unimaginable. Sleepless nights. Zombie days. But as devastating as they were....they're in the past.

And that's where they need to stay. If you continue to drag them with you into the future,you won't have a future. Just a descent deeper and deeper into "emotional quicksand" that you create.

It's also essential for you to re-affirm the obvious: The Affair wasn't your choice. So why should you shoulder the blame? It was your partner who decided to "take a walk on the wild side." Not you. How could you be responsible for that, any more than you could be responsible for a plane crash just because you were in the airport!

Once you're accomplished that the second move forward in getting back your self-respect and well being is to accept responsibility for your own life. You need to leave your old life where it belongs - in the past, and "be here now." Concentrating on your life in the present. Now is the time to focus on you. On what you need. What you want.

Of course it will be difficult. Without a doubt you will have doubts and misgivings. But it is your inner power that must be regained if you're to advance surviving this disaster. And to take back that personal power you can't disappate your energy dragging around the remorseful chains of the infidelity.

Your power needs to be focused on reclaiming your self-respect. Naturally it will be a challenge coming to grips with the fallout of the depressing impact of your spouse's fling

I think you'll agree, that if you can't sing your prasies, unaided, you can't expect others to do the same. Don't you agree? Clearly, no one will develop a positive opnion of you, if the one you project is negative. Don't forget self-respect, like charity, begins at home!

In closing remember you must accept that your road back to self-respect won't be strewn with roses But by taking positive

steps you will over time weaken the force of the negative affair images.

There's no time like the present to take action and focus your personal power on creating those positive results.Because their effect is progressive. And increases exponentially in relation to your efforts.

If you institute the preceding steps sincerely and consistently,I have no doubt you will survive the agony of your partner's affair.

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