Sustaining Emotional Wellbeing

Author: David Wheeler

Author: David Wheeler

Each of us has individual characteristics that largely determine how happy we are. Studies show that factors like our views on life, adaptability and how resilient we are, account for around a quarter of our happiness levels. Those who are mentally tough recover quickly from disappointments and maintain positivity. Even though some of our traits are inherited, there is much you can do to develop characteristics that will benefit you. Your general emotional state can be enhanced by a course of personal development. Make a point of examining your patterns of thought. Are they helpful and healthy or not? Individuals deal with emotions in different ways; some folks prefer to keep a tight rein on theirs while others go off the deep end when the slightest thing irritates them. Where would you place yourself on the emotional management spectrum? If you find yourself firmly at either of the ends, it means your emotions are controlling you, not vice versa. As it is quite to difficult to be impartial when judging yourself, come up with varying situations and picture how you'd react in each case. Thanks to our varied and unique natures, we can each be distinctive, appealing individuals. This does not mean that managing your emotions is unnecessary. Rather, it implies that it is important to manage behaviors that are damaging or aggressive in some way. Those who react aggressively to the smallest irritation, act that way because they lack emotional maturity. If you are in the habit of ranting at people without cause, it is likely that you are unable to see things from an opposing viewpoint. Those who exhibit excessive anger at the slightest thing, have no perspective. Instead of just accepting a problem as just an irritant, they allow it fuel an outburst of rage. Behaving like this is simply pointless and harmful. Someone behaving like this is unable to see the wood for the trees when it comes to interpreting their feelings. They will often behave in an impulsive and rash manner towards others. If anger issues are a major concern for you, seek the help of a professional therapist. Although many emotional issues are not as serious as those associated with excessive anger, the concept of managing anger has much to teach us. Anger management is all about making people realize that emotions can be measured on a sliding scale, not just the ends of the scale. A specialist in anger management will seek to promote behavior patterns in a person that are appropriate to different situations. Often, somebody who is prone to angry outbursts is actually angry at themselves. For instance, they might be annoyed at their own deficiencies. They then project their anger onto others. Often, it is helpful to get an angry person to accept that they are really worthy of loving themselves. It is important to be able to identify what feelings you have when responding to a particular situation. For example, if you are irritated with someone, is it because you are envious of them, or are you just upset about something? The more you can pinpoint what the problem is, the better chance you have of coming up with the right response. Now, recognizing emotions can be a tad difficult if you haven't practiced it. Ok, here's something both fun and practical for you to try. On a piece of paper, make a list of as many positive emotions as you can. Beside each one, make a note of an event where you had that emotion and how it made you feel physically. Now, on another piece of paper, repeat the exercise, this time listing negative emotions. Throw into the mix things like feeling sick, feelings of nervousness, heart beating faster and so on. Now it's time to bring back those positive feelings. You can do this by closing your eyes and reliving an event that left you feeling positive. You will notice as you replay that event in your mind, how quickly your body is actually physically affected. Do not underestimate how powerful your mind truly is. This simple exercise demonstrates just how easily we can induce physical feelings using only the power of our minds. Imagining emotions is only part of the story, though; you now need to think about how to put them across so they are understood. Even so, you have already made big strides along the road to emotional well-being. Give yourself a pat on the back! About the Author:

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