Tantric Tuition For Couples
The majority of people who have tantric tuition sessions
, both men and women, prefer to experience the session on their own. Sometimes they tell their partner, but the majority do not, because they feel their partner may object, feel jealous, feel insecure, or simply will not understand why they should feel the need for such a session.
However, more and more couples are becoming braver and deciding to experience a session together, as a couple, to enhance the sensual side of their relationship. They are brave, because it does require courage for a woman to have her partner lie on a massage table, and be aroused to orgasm by another woman, even if that woman is a tantric masseuse. In the same way, it takes courage for a man to admit that he could improve his skills and be taught how to give more pleasure to his wife.
Once the initial step has been taken, and inhibitions and fears have been set aside, and the appointment has been made, couples do feel so many benefits.
So, what actually happens in a tantric massage couples tuition session?
Sessions should be completely tailored to suit each couple - they learn to give one another a tantric massage and get to try out new ideas and experiment with sensual touch. It is adviseable at the beginning, to have a short chat to find out exactly what the couple wants to learn, or whether they have any specific issues or questions.
If the woman is the first to receive the massage, the man joins the masseuse in giving the massage. If he likes, he can watch for a little at the beginning and then gradually join in and practice the different massage techniques by copying the masseuse. Then the roles are swapped, with the man receiving the massage and the woman joining in at any stage. If the partners simply want to just observe the other receiving a massage, that is fine... or if they want a more hands on/lesson approach, where they are more involved, they can have the strokes demonstrated to them and the tantric masseuse makes sure that they learn and understand the various techniques at each phase of the massage.
The environment should be very relaxed and open, so that couples find it easy to articulate about what feels good to them and why in a setting with a 'neutral person', ie. someone outside of the relationship. Having a 'neutral' person there also helps positively with communication, and avoids saying things like 'why didnt you tell me this before'..... They should be shown ways of giving feedback in a positive manner - ie. saying 'that feels really good' or ' it feels nice this way' rather than saying 'that doesnt feel nice.'
Once we actually discover what feels pleasurable, its easy to communicate this to our partner..... the problem often is that people are not really aware of their feelings and sensations at a deeper level... they are so used to falling into old patterns of response in order to please their partner, that they lose touch with what really feels good to them. Over time, partners who have been together for years, fall into habits and limit themelves to taking about what has become acceptable or comfortable. It can be quite daunting and hard to instigate conversations about new approaches to intimacy. Partners don't want to hurt or offend or create resentment, suspicion, jealousy or insecurity.
During a tantric massage couples session, both partners are on an 'even playing field.' It is important to create an open and non-judgmental environment, so that everyone is as comfortable as possible giving/receiving and talking about the massage.
The partner who is receiving the massage is encouraged to go deep within, and not feel the need to give feedback or talk at all whilst receiving the massage. Most sexual or sensual situations are focused on someone or something external from ourselves - be it visual, porn, emotional needs, or wanting to give and please. To completely surrender and learn to receive pleasure passively can enable us to actually feel what is going on in our own bodies and experience our inner sensuality at a much deeper level, discarding the usual thoughts of focusing on someone or something else.
A tantric massage or tuition session for couples can, in this way, contribute to an ongoing sensual journey together, and can provide a new platform for open discussion, communication and the practicing of a different and deeper level of intimacy.
by: Peter Jones
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