The Deadliest Moment
The Deadliest Moment
The Deadliest Moment
The deadliest moment in a woman's life is the instant she tells her husband she would like a divorce or she tells her boyfriend she wants to end the relationship. There is no way a woman can calculate a man's reaction to a divorce request. This is why this moment should be carefully planned. A woman should never tell her mate that she wants to end the affair or marriage unless she is properly prepared. She should be prepared to flee. She should be prepared for any eventuality. If you are a woman, once you make the decision to leave, you must conduct yourself as if you are a general of an army. Ask yourself these questions: What will I need to do if he turns ugly, if he refuses the divorce, if he refuses to leave the house, if he begins to harass me at work? No woman should be so foolish as to think she can end a relationship without battle scars. While you are at work or on the bus or elsewhere, begin to jot down notes. Ask yourself what important papers you will need if you have to leave the state. Forget these foolish notions: I should not have to leave my home. He has no right to bother me. I'm a citizen; I have a right to live wherever I want.
All of these ideas are true, but the bottom line is that a restraining order or a stalking order cannot save your life if your husband or boyfriend kicks in your door or climbs in your window and kills you. You must be prepared to protect yourself. It has been demonstrated time and time again that a woman cannot depend upon the police for help (see Mrs. Crystal Brame and Mrs. Diane Hall). She cannot depend upon her employer for help. She cannot depend upon her family for help. There are cases in this book in which women were killed in front of police, on the job, and in their family's home. You will read case after case in which the police said there was nothing they could do (see Mrs. Machekia Franklin).
For years prosecutors said that there was nothing they could do about women being abused or stalked. There are cases in which police returned the man's guns (see Mrs. Kathleen Cauley), ignoring the woman's cry for help. We mean no disrespect to police officers* because many are valiant men, but woman have died calling the police. The dichotomy that exists between a terrified woman and the police is that many police officers identify with the husband or boyfriend; this is especially true of older men and officers in rural areas (see Lori Michelkamp). They look at a situation of domestic violence and think, "Oh well, Johnny just needs to cool off. She probably pissed him off. All he needs to do is go get a drink and he'll feel better and they will kiss and make up." You must remember that most police officers are men and also that many of them beat their own wives or kill women (see Mrs. Vickie Barton, 40, of Ohio; Susan Louis Fyock of Pennsylvania; Sonya Ivanoff, 19, of Alaska; Cara Knotts, 20, of California). The same goes for legislators. Many of them are married and beat their wives. You must develop the mindset that you are on your own. Your family cannot help you. Your girlfriends cannot help you, nor can the police help you (see Mrs. Sandra Maloney). You will function better if you view your operation as a situation that only you can carry out. Bus schedules and flight schedules should be reviewed and memorized. Memorize the telephone numbers for local taxi services. Begin salting away money. A woman should never be without money. If you have to drink water so be it, but keep the money in your pocket. In this country, a person is not respected if he or she does not have money. This is just a fact of life. Accept it and begin salting away money during good times so that if your boyfriend or husband turns violent, you can protect yourself and your children. You should place clothing strategically somewhere in the community. If you have children, get a knapsack and put food and toys in it, so that you can feed your children on a bus and keep them quiet so that you can think.
Leave the knapsack in a storage locker. Do not change your mailing address. Write the postmaster at your post office and tell him or her to return all your mail to sender. You do not have a forwarding address. You want all you mail returned to sender immediately. Write your creditors, etc. Tell them that you will be out of the country for awhile and will notify them of a good mailing address soon, which you never will. Mail the letters just as you are leaving the city. Never give your creditors your new mailing address. You can keep up with your payments by recording the payments in a notebook. You can mail your payments to them indirectly but never give them your new mailing address. When you mail the payments, use money orders -- never personal checks -- and no electronic transfers. Believe it or not, mailmen and creditors are nice people and helpful people. Unthinkingly, they can reveal the state or city your payments are coming from, thus the city and state to which you have moved. Have a lawyer send a letter to the credit bureaus, utility companies, the post office, and your creditors telling them not to release any information to anyone involving you. Also, tell your new mail carrier that you will never send anyone to pick up your mail at the post office. You must become sneaky. You must become anonymous. You must disappear. All you have to do is make certain modifications to your behavior, and you can defeat your adversary.
The one thing you do not do is to tell your girlfriend, your sister, or your mother what you are planning to do until the moment you do it. Women talk too much. They run their mouths and offer suggestions that have gotten women killed. It is believed that Becky Simmons was murdered by her husband because he learned she was making plans to leave him. The mother of one of the victims in this book said she wished she had never told her daughter to go back to the man her daughter had left. Her daughter was murdered shortly after she returned home. Women have been known to say things like, "Girl, there is no way I would leave him with all the money he makes." "You're not going to find anyone as good as him." "A little slap now and then is okay; it makes him feel powerful." These women are stupid and should be treated as such. You do not listen to fools. No one deserves to be beaten. Why should a woman be beaten just to make her husband or her boyfriend feel powerful? Do not count on any of these people to help you. When a person is in a life-or-death struggle, he or she should depend only upon his or her own resources and fortitude. You must make up in your mind that you are strong and you are powerful and you can fight for yourself. You do not have to be defeated because you are a female. Men are not as smart as they think they are. Their greatest tool is their mouth: they talk a good game to terrorize women, but when there is a showdown, many implode.
The only system in the world designed so that one person must depend upon another person for his or her life is the military. In this system, the relationships are forged over time. The men and women of the military know that their lives depend on the physical and verbal performance of one another. They give their lives to ensure one another's performance. Begin to encourage yourself. As you make your plans, put them to memory. Do not keep the pieces of paper you write on. Remember: the deadliest moment in your life will be when you tell your husband or boyfriend that you want to end the relationship. If you plan correctly, you can tell them by mail after you have left your home, mailing the letter just before you board the bus. If you leave by car, paint your car when you arrive at your new destination. You can also modify the appearance of your car by hanging dice across your visor. Put grotesque animals in the back window of the car. Give the interior a masculine look. Put sports decals on the car. Use your mind. It works. You just have to practice believing in yourself, just as you practiced not believing in yourself.
The woman in the greatest danger is the woman with children and no resources. She has to deal with the constraint of her children and governmental laws (see Mary Feldbruegge, 29). Do not depend upon social service to help you. Women have been shot to death in social service offices after the courts demanded the husband or boyfriend be given visitation rights to see his children. Mrs. Lorraine Kline was murdered on December 18, 1968, in a welfare office during a Christmas reunion with her husband. The reunion was arranged by Frank Wild Grube, age 23, a social worker. He too was shot to death. Mrs. Gertrude Didchenko, 43, was murdered on February 7, 1965, in the American Museum of Natural History in New York. The judge said that Mr. Didchenko must have visitation rights. Both women were mothers. In some cases, during visitations, the children are also murdered. On January 27, 2000, during a court-ordered visitation, Mrs. Anne Formosa, 33, of Longmont, Colorado, and two of her children were shot to death.
Excerpt from The Deadliest Moment, 2008 Touched By The Light Publishing.
The Cost of Handicap Lifts How Do You Brew Your Tea? Text Appeal - Mike Masters The Mobility Vans Of Today Offer Increased Customization What Features to Look for in Mobility Vans What To Look For In A Mobility Lift Genital Warts Q&A Why Surveys Are Valuable Think about what sort of washing machine you need Five places you must see in Guangzhou Hit the Waves With Battery Power HPV Questions & Answers Pencil – the different types used in recent times