Everyone wants to fall in love and find their soul mate
. Finding them is one thing, it is another battle altogether to try and keep them. Relationships may look like fun and laughs but they are also very hard work. You always need to be working at it otherwise you may find that it goes stale and eventually dies.
So how do you prevent that from happening? What are the things you need to know in order to keep your relationship fresh and dynamic? There are a number of different things you can do. It doesn't really matter what you do so as long as you do something.
Often at the beginning of a relationship everything is fresh and bubbly. It is exciting and you can't wait to do things with the other person. They say that familiarity breeds contempt and there is a sense of truth to this. After a while you can fall into a comfort zone with the other person.
You are happy just to say at home and chill. Because you don't need to impress them anymore you stop trying and so the relationship can sort of stagnate. This can happen especially with married couples who feel even more entrenched in a comfort zone. Thus married couples should make an extra effort to go out - especially those with kids.
That is another issue. Those with kids find that they are putting so much time and effort into them that they don't have time for each other. You don't want to fall into this trap. Nor do you want to be a position where you come to resent each other.
Go out to the movies or out to dinner. If you like to play bingo, go out to a bingo night. It doesn't matter per say if it a picnic, bingo or the opera. All that matters is that you are making an effort and seen to be doing so. People respect this.
It is not just important to keep going things - it is vitally important to keep communicating. Communication is the oxygen which helps a relationship to breathe. Without it, everything such as honesty and trust is going to fall by the wayside. Soon you are in a downward out of control spiral. Without wanting to share with the other person you will quickly run out of reasons why you want to spend time with them.
By no means is it easy to be with the same person day after day, week after week, month after month and year after year. This is why so many people break-up and get divorced. It is why so many people have affairs. Keeping a vibrant relationship is a massive challenge and one that not many can truly successfully master.
If you are both committed to the cause you will find that you can overcome most obstacles. Sure along the way there will be ups and downs but your love will each will see you through. That you have the desire to grow old together and that you want to see your family flourish. This is what all the sacrifices and hardships are for.