The Top Five Boundaries You Must Set to Banish Stress and Create Success

Most people these days feel overloaded, overworked

, overtired, over-everything! Not only are our plates full but our china is cracking under the weight of so much to do!May I suggest that boundaries are the key to regaining your energy, your peace of mind, and your productivity? Think about it. If you're going in a million directions trying to please everyone, will you ever reach even ONE destination? You'll drive around in circles or a zigzag, but you certainly won't get anywhere.Here are five powerful boundaries you can establish that will help you create the success you desire:1) Shut everyone and everything out for just a few minutes each morning. Develop a daily practice of listening, a time alone in which you check in with yourself, review your mission, and ask, "What is the best, most valuable use of my time right now and today?" Use this practice for your personal and professional life and you will begin to see results.2) When you are working, close the door, put up a "Do not disturb" sign, or in some way demarcate your work space as yours. If someone intrudes, let them know you can speak with them at a particular time. One manager I coached had great success reserving a particular hour early in the morning for her team to consult her about problems they were having with their work. Instead of doing her team's work for them all day long, this savvy manager set a boundary and therefore empowered her team members to find viable solutions while she completed her own projects.3) Delegate, hire, barter, or refer out what you can't or won't do. I often have clients request further services such as web design or technological assistance that are not included in my areas of knowledge. This gives me the opportunity to refer them to a qualified professional, someone who will take care of these needs skillfully. If you're not the right person for the job or it truly doesn't interest you, don't do it. Your time is too precious to waste doing something you don't know how to do, don't do well, or hate doing.4) Make written agreements with your clients and even your kids. One of the most powerful actions any manager, supervisor, or parent can do is to hold a group meeting and create a list of "Team Rules." Whether we're talking about a work team, focus group, or family, everyone needs to feel invested in these rules of conduct. When people have participated in the creation of a new rule, they are more likely to follow it. As you put the responsibility back on them, this frees you up for your own life and affairs.5) Be clear with yourself. If you feel that someone has overstepped boundaries and not valued you or your work, take time to comprehend exactly what you think and feel about the situation. What is your part in it? What can you and the other party do to resolve the situation? Then figure out a way to politely approach them to express your thoughts and suggest a course of action.How can you tell if you need to be more vigilant with setting boundaries? You're antsy, irritated, even resentful of people, your job, your family, and daily tasks. One thing is certain--You have to set your own boundaries. It's your job to evaluate when you've been doing too much so you can reach a state of balance again. It's up to you to extinguish the fires of burnout with some good, kick-butt boundaries that enable you to manage your life--and your stress level--with ease.


The Top Five Boundaries You Must Set to Banish Stress and Create Success

By: Annette Lode

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