Tough Questions All Couples Should Ask Each Other

Whether you are engaged, in a committed relationship or single there are important topics and questions that should be discussed before tying the knot

. You may feel like you know everything there is to know about your loved one, and perhaps you really do, but there is no better time to get down to the details. The idea is to make sure that you are both on the same page and moving in the same direction or least know what that direction is so that you can make informed decisions.

Question #1: Do you want kids? If you do, how many?

Of course this isn't an appropriate question for the first date, but after the point of being committed to each other this question should arise if it hasn't already. If your mate says the opposite of your personal desires this is a definite deal breaker. Don't talk the other person into what you are wanting; this can only lead to resentment and disappointment. At the same time don't fit your lifestyle to meet someone else's expectations; you don't want to miss out! I think it's wise to take the conversation a step further and discuss discipline and how certain situations would be handled. Also, make sure to discuss your ideas of the number of children you wish to have. It's not wise to talk someone into or out of having more children down the road. All of this may seem premature, but you will be happier to have everything out on the table.

Question #2: What are your beliefs/ faith value system?

This question on the other hand is appropriate to ask on a first date. A person's religion will affect the entire relationship; both early on and in the future. Make sure that your ideals fit each other's. Having opposite faiths or values is another deal breaker. It may seem plausible that in an early relationship the differences can be met in the middle, but in the grind of the daily scheme of things or during a tough trial in your relationship you may stand divided. Therefore be open about how the two of you will be joined in a spiritual sense. If you have decided to add children into the relationship include them as well. A family that is united spiritually can not be divided.

Question #3: What are you life goals?

On occasion this question should be addressed. Perhaps yearly or whatever you decide as a couple. I think it's just as important or even more so after you are married. If you ask this early on and the other responds with something that really doesn't meet your plans then you have come to an obvious decision-making point.

Most people are highly opinionated and sure of themselves in these areas of life and need or want little to no persuading to do otherwise. If you find someone that corresponds with the answers you are looking for then the odds of a successful relationship are high. Marriages are tested and tried and need to survive through times when things aren't going just as you planned. People change and your answers to these life questions may too. Just be sure that person you will spend your time with will be as supportive of you as you are of them.

Copyright (c) 2010 Stephanie Lopez

by: Stephanie Lopez

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