Toys, a Check, a YOGA gift card ,Clothes, Sexy lingerie? The hidden message of a gift
Toys, a Check, a YOGA gift card ,Clothes, Sexy lingerie
? The hidden message of a giftToys, a check, a YOGA gift card ,clothes, sexy lingerie ?
We love to give gifts as much as we love to receive them . Giving a gift is part of an established code in our society. We can give apresent for a special occasion or at any time of the year. When we give a gift to someone it always means something. We send a conscious or unconscious message tothe gift receiver.
A gift can express a variety set of human feelings. It canbelove, appreciation for someone, but it can also expresses the shadows of our feelings, the darker ones like anger, rancor, culpability or even hate.
Parents tend to buy expensive toys to their children when they feel guilty. Christmas is a good opportunity to compensate the lack of attention toward their children during the year. Guiltiness is expressed through too many and/or too expensivetoys under the Christmas tree. Children are not naive andtoys cant fill theemptiness completely.
A YOGA gift card that comes from someone in your family o a close friend may send a different message that a YOGA gift card that comes from your work colleague. But for sure all of them are telling you that you need to calm down and relax. Your family and friends know that you are under pressure and care for your health. Some of your work colleagues might've told you, "working with you has been hell, please do something, get yourself together!". But anyway, most of them think that YOGA can help you to cope with stress improving your health and your relationships at home and at work. And they are right. A YOGA gift card is the best gift ever that you can receive. Even if you are not a true believer of the YOGA philosophy, the practice of YOGA will have a positive and long lasting impact in your live.
Have you ever receivedsome exotic and sexy lingerie? Smaller sizethan yours may be?Of course the message varies depending on your relationship with the giver. Fianc, husband or mother in law will send a different message to you.If the sexy lingerie comes from your lovely husband after ten years of marriage, then we may think that this gentleman needs some refreshment in his intimacy and would really appreciate if you could lose some weight. The messagemeans clearly, " Heeee........lp"!
A friend of mine told me that every Christmas he receives a check from his father in law.This charming man fills out the check with his Mont Blanc in a hurry on the corner of the table. The gesture is offensive and the message is clear. "My daughter deserves someone better than you".
For many years my sister received for Christmas the same blouse in different colors from her sister in law. The kind of blouse that she loves to wear but doesn't fit my sister.The Message?," I don t like you." These are just a few examples of the many messages we can receive o send to someone.
Many of us have experienced an uncomfortable feeling by receiving a particular gift. We can' t even explain exactly what it is, but it just doesn't feel right. We can have sent an offensive message to someone too and hurt a relationship. We should pay attention to the message we send to the receiver when we offer a gift. Most of the time we are not even aware of the message we are sending but we can really harm the feelings of this person. The cost of the gift has nothing to do with our appreciation to the person. A very expensive gift can be as much offensive as a cheap one. A gift can say much more than words and betrayal your thoughts. Being the greatest communicator in the world won't help if we don t learn the"Art" of giving a gift. I am not thinking about flowers, specific colors o a right number of roses. It is much more complex and interesting than that.
Anyway this Christmas is not the exception, and one more time thousands of gifts under the tree will end up unused in our closets. There may be out there thousands of people that would be happy to have them, and charity is always a wise and good decision.
Happy Holidays !!