You have just suffered a relationship break up and are now feeling a sense of anger
, resentment and guilt. Its making you despondent and you keep contemplating on how you can get your girlfriend to get back with you.
It may not have been a perfect relationship and not many are, but you now understand how much your girl meant to you. If it makes you feel better, its been said that over 99 percent of relationships can be fixed. The key is to follow a good plan of action and have the willingness to do what it takes.
If you are still in love with your girlfriend and have the desire to get her back, then that could be enough reason to go through with it. You are going to have to look hard to find the real reason the break up happened, and you must be honest in your search. That would be your first step in getting her back.
As you search for clues as to why you really broke up, dont get caught up with the things you can assume are the reasons. There is a good chance that those things you find may only be the symptoms of other real issues between you and your ex. If you think you broke up because of the arguing you did, think again because arguing is rarely the cause.
There was something that was the root cause to make the two of you argue and thats the kind of thing you must discover. Keep digging away until you discover the real issue. Now you know what you need to do to find the cause of your break up.
Once you find the problem think about what you could have done better and what you can do now to improve. You can only change yourself not your ex; they will have to do their own work. What you can do is forgive them and hope they will make improvements on their own.
Once you have a grasp of all this you can try to make contact with your ex. Ask her if she would be willing to meet with you to talk. Do not consider this a date, its only a chance to talk face to face so you can go over your possible future together. Be polite and no arguing. Avoid talking about the past unless you absolutely have to. Be positive and listen to what she may have to say with respect.
Do not treat this like a date; it is only a chance to meet to see what your chances are of moving forward with your plan to get back together with her. It may take more meetings before you make good progress so have patience.