Heart-centered meditation teaches us to orient to the center place and from there
, hold each opposite voice non-judgmentally. The center place is not always calm, even as the eye of a hurricane is not really calm. Society's temptations to be a particular 'kind' or 'type' will not help here. What may help is that a part of us, in our genes, have that indefatigable perseverance that once allowed life to survive in a relentlessly hostile world.