? But you don't know where to start? Let me help you out by telling you how I did it.
I am not a marriage counselor and you should not expect a quick win solution to your marital problems. I am just a guy that made a decision to start doing things differently.
How did I do it? I made the decision to act. Searching and reading anything that I thought could help me. I will show you what I found most usefull later on, but first I would like to tell you what I have learned that changed the way she looks at me now.
SCHEDULE TOHETER-TIME
We all know that spending quality time together will do the trick. The question is how. We both work at home a lot. So we can schedule our time together rather easily. We try to have lunch together whenever we can. A moment away form our computers and taking the time to sit down and have a nice meal. I am usely the one making her an extra special sandwich with everything healthy I can find in the fridge. By giving her that focussed attention and preparing lunch I started making our marriage work again.
GET MORE FRIENDS
It is a great gift to have a lot friends. But you really need to work on it. Investing in new or existing relationships is a lot of work. When you make a joint effort it becomes something you have accomplished together. Offcourse you should also have your own friends and encourage her to spend time with her friends. But making my social network our network did for us. I showed her that I was willing to share my friends with her.
MAKE UP AFTER A FIGHT
It takes a great man to admit that he was wrong and say sorry. Not because she wants you to, but because you feel you should. You will find it easier after a while, I surtenly did. And to my surprise she started doing the same. What you give is what you get. And I do't have to tell you what you get after making up, right?
How you can do it?
I can keep you reading for at least another hour, but there is no point. Now you know how I saved my marriage and my way will surely not be your way. We are different after all. But there is something I did that I know you should do. Take some action. Do something to make your marriage work again. And tell your friends what you did to save your marriage.
What I know is what worked for me. And I only used one solution out there. I recommend it to you because it gave me the right ideas for saving my relationship.