When Should You Start Having Sex In A Relationship?
For a lot of people in a serious relationship
, one of the most pressing questions is when is it appropriate to start having sex. This question is so agonizing that most people become nervous or flustered whenever they think about it; are they going too fast, or too slow? Would their partner want to have sex with them? These questions are based on a persons view on sex, as well as their personal morals, so it is a question that most people take very seriously.People will often be apprehensive about having sex for the first time because it often has a huge effect on the outcome of a relationship, which is why the stand on when sex is appropriate differs from one person to another. For example, people who have already been married before and are already divorce dating might think that sex on the first date would be fine. Even if they are not yet in a serious relationship with the person that they are dating, since they have already experienced sex in their previous relationship, their view on sex would be much more relaxed.
On the other hand, people who might come from a culture who are strong believers in marriage might not feel it is right to have sex before being married to their partner. A lot of young Chinese women and Indian women often come from a very traditional and conservative background, and do not believe that having premarital sex is a moral thing to do.
Another thing to keep in mind is whether both people concerned already have the mental and emotional maturity to be able to handle a sexual relationship, as well as being able to handle whatever consequences may arise from having one.
In general, however, sex in a relationship should only commence when both people concerned in the relationship feel that they are ready to have sex. There are a myriad of concerns that might stand in the way, such as religious, moral or even health-related concerns, so sex should only happen when both partners feel comfortable.
No one should ever feel pressured when it comes to having a sexual relationship. It doesnt matter how long youve been together, how well you know each other, or how much you want to be together.When it comes to struggling with the questions that one has when it comes to sex, you should always listen to your own gut. Other people are going to have different standards and ideals from yours, so dont feel pressured to follows theirs.Of course their opinion may be taken to account, but in the end, it is your own choice that matters.So, in the end, it will always be your own word that should be important to you. If you feel that you and your partner are ready to have sex because you have reached physical, mental and emotional maturity, then the only thing thats left is to enjoy the act itself!
by: Lorii Abela