It took me way too long to realize that I was contributing to this whole unattractive business
. It had issues with myself which rubbed off unto him. When I stopped focusing on pleasing him and started focusing on pleasing myself, things changed. Luckily, over time (and taking calculated baby steps), I was able to reestablish intimacy and bring back his attraction and love. You can read a very personal story on my blog at http://isavedmymarriage.com/.