Why Won't He Call Me? Understand the Reasons Men Don't Call
Why Won't He Call Me? Understand the Reasons Men Don't Call
"Why won't he call me?" That's the one statement almost every woman in a relationship has had to ask at some point. Even the most stable and balanced unions run into this issue from time-to-time. Everything can seem perfect except for the fact that he just won't do any of the calling. It's beyond frustrating and if you're in this situation now you know that it makes you question your appeal and just how devoted to you he is. There's fortunately some help for you. Once a woman gains some insight into why men don't call she can take the necessary steps to change her own relationship so her guy starts picking up the phone to call much more often.
When you've been with a man for some time and he doesn't call that's an entirely different situation than if you've just started dating a man who appears lazy when it comes to dialing your number. In the first instance, your boyfriend is likely not calling because you're doing it for him. We tend to jump the gun a bit when it comes to filling in all the communication cracks in our relationships. If the man we're involved with isn't the calling type, we just call more. Inevitably we get upset because he's not calling and it starts a vicious circle of frustration and resentment.
If you happen to just be dating a new guy and he's already falling behind with calling you, that's a bit different. He may actually be testing you. This is something many men do without consciously realizing it. They don't call to gauge your interest. If you react strongly and immediately call, he'll know that you're his. That's not necessarily the best thing. You're not going to capture him using the old tactic of playing hard to get if you're the one always calling him.
As simple as the issue of telephone calls within a dating relationship should be, it's just not. This is a complex and confusing aspect of the male and female dynamic. The important thing is to recognize why he's not calling before you react to it. As tempted as you may be to demand that he call you by explaining to him the emotional pain it's causing you when he doesn't, resist it. He'll likely just tell you that you're overreacting and in the early stages of any promising relationship, that's not something you ever want to hear.
