Why is He Distant - How You Are Pushing Him Away Unknowingly
Why is He Distant - How You Are Pushing Him Away Unknowingly
Sometimes we think he is pulling away from us when the truth may be that we are pushing him away unknowingly. I received an email from a woman today. She was feeling her boyfriend's distance. After questioning her a bit I discovered that he had missed a few nightly phone calls. She got upset and voiced this to him. Now maybe she had a reason to be upset, but it turned out he had an explanation that panned out to be true.
So what happened here? Well for one, he now feels he let her down or was not making her happy. Guys hate to feel this, they really do. Other thing here, now he knows it is expected of him to call her. He now feels obligated. This is not how you want him to feel. He is distant now because he is wondering where his freedom is going. Guys have this huge fear that you are going to start dictating their lives and who they see and what they do.
There are many ways that women unknowingly push guys away. I know many women who are great girlfriends. They are kind, helpful, nice girls, yet the men pull away. It's often a case of acting like a wife before he is ready to make you his wife. This gets a guy spooked fast. If you are giving a lot into the relationship, this may be what he is thinking and why he is distant.
The distance and pulling away often comes before he disappears . How many times have we heard stories of the guy who just vanished into thin air. We often blame the guy when in truth, it may be the woman who pushed him away unknowingly.