You Want to Get Your Ex Back? Then Break All Ties
You Want to Get Your Ex Back? Then Break All Ties
You want to get your ex back in your life. We all do. The end of a relationship is bitter, sad, miserable and so much more. Only the person going through it actually knows how it feels. You miss your ex's embrace, his/her warmth and love. You reach out but he/she is no longer there, just an empty space staring back at you. And the only thing you want is to get your ex back... But the reality is that your ex has moved on and doesn't want to come back. What can you do now? How can you get your ex back?
Well, for starters avoid any contact with your ex! Cut all ties with him/her. Don't text each other; don't try to find out how he/she is through common friends. Just let go.
In case you're wondering how on earth can this help in getting your ex back, the key lies in giving space! Spaces in your togetherness allow you to heal, to figure out what you want, to look at your past relationship without any blinkers on. During this phase when both of you are emotionally upset, if one of you gets into another relationship without giving yourself enough time to heal, this new relationship probably won't last. And it'll only lead to more pain and hurt, for the new partner as well.
This is not a healthy situation to be in. You've not dealt with the emotional issues from your past, but you've gone into a rebound. This is bound to lead to trouble with the new partner. And to make matters worse, imagine if you were still in contact with your ex!
Psychologists warn against being in touch with one's ex. They stress that it's important to spend time apart to allow for some clarity and healing. Immediately after a split, one's judgment is clouded with emotions and only time can dispel these clouds. It's also healthy to go through the grieving process instead of repressing one's emotions. As much as one dislikes clichs, time is the biggest healer, there is no doubt about it. And you and your ex need time to figure out what you really want.
Time away from your ex will also help to cool your anger down and get things in perspective. Maybe you were so bitter that you were making your ex out to be the devil disguised in Prada?! Maybe you had conveniently put the blame for the break up on your ex, and now, with time, you realize that's not exactly true.
The more time you spend away from your ex, the healthier it is. It will also help you decide if really want your ex back or are you better off letting him/her go... It's important that you know your heart and mind or you may end up with the wrong person again and again and again. Who knows, maybe your ex is that wrong person?
You need to be absolutely certain that you want to get your ex back and then work towards it. But let some time go by before you decide. After all, it's your life we're talking about and that's most important, because you are the most important person in your life.