You Want to Get Your Ex Back - Try Seducing Instead of Imposing!
You Want to Get Your Ex Back - Try Seducing Instead of Imposing!
You want to get your ex back... just like most people do when they find themselves in situation similar to yours. It is natural to feel this way and there is nothing wrong with a desire to reunite with your lost lover or spouse.
Actually, there is even a deep psychological reason for trying to win your ex back. The break-ups are the one of the most painful experiences in life. Usually they aren't limited to being just emotional torture and they often lead to developing some kind of other symptoms as well. Weight loss or insomnia are just two instances.
Breaking up, especially with a long term partner, is a devastating experience. You lose your lover and often your best friend at the same time. Soon you begin to miss the intimacy and emotional comfort of being with her/him. And this is exactly why you want to try to get your ex back.
There are no guaranteed methods of getting your ex back. But there are plenty of things you can do to either increase or decrease your chances of reuniting with your ex. Unfortunately, the most of rejected lovers unconsciously choose take a self-destructive approach which greatly diminish their chance of successful reconciliation.
You should try to avoid taking this path. If you want to get your ex back don't do any crazy things or acts of desperation. Begging, pleading, or crying are natural reactions when we face separation from someone we love or care about. But they kill attraction and create a lot of tension. They are not going to bring your ex back. With this kind of attitude on your part, she/he will just feel pity for you and it is like a kiss of death to having any romantic interest in you again.
The more constructive step towards reconciliation would be taking a long critical look at yourself. If you really want to get your ex back, it is the best to start with fixing your own issues. Try hard to evaluate your past behaviour and ask yourself questions like... "What did I do wrong to make this happen?" or "Was it really my fault?".
It is very likely that asking yourself all these questions will have quite therapeutic effect. It will provide you with an opportunity to ponder the part you have played in your relationship before the break-up. If you come to a conclusion that you have actually done a good job at keeping the relationship working, then it may be in your best interest to just let your ex partner go.
If you focus more on yourself than on "getting your ex back" issue, you will become more attractive to your lost lover or spouse. The needy, clingy attitude always leads to developing at least some degree of resentment on her/his part towards you. Actually, it's a very predictable, subconscious reaction. By acting this way you put a lot of pressure on your ex partner on emotional level and her/his subconscious mind will start resisting it. Soon it will turn into a resentment toward you as you are the source of this pressure.
The only real chance of wining your ex back is by seducing her/his subconscious mind again. This is where all feelings of attraction and love are initiated. You can't impose your will or force anything upon it.
Unfortunately, almost every rejected lover tries in one way or another to impose her/his own will in an attempt to influence the feelings and decisions of her/his ex. It can be by arguing, crying, begging or some other form of manipulation. They start the battle which they can't win and as result they deprave themselves of any real chance of successful reconciliation.
You want to get your ex back... try seducing and avoid imposing!