There are certain "talk" tools that can improve any marriage. I use these tools with couples who sign up for my marriage retreat week-endsduring the seminar portion. Specific "talk" tools are introduced along with a process known as facilitated communication. With communication facilitated by a third party, a couple is able to learn better ways to communicate with one another as they share a renewal of their marriage during the retreatweek-end. During the seminar couples plan what they will work on together during the "work" phase of the week-end. Using these "talk" tools helps them communicate better and lay the groundwork for a better relationship in the future while they "work" on their marrage and enjoy a week-end focused on one another.
The best way to get on track with your marriage is to actually attend one of the marriage retreats, but the sample of a few of my "talk" tools shown below can show you how to begin to have better communication within your marriage. After you look over the tools below, visit my web site for a more complete list and information about my marriage retreats.
Watch your timing.
Use a business-like location for your couple communication.
Only praise, no criticism.
You do not criticize any suggestion or idea.
Never interrupt.
Don't blurt! Soften your statements.
No re-defining the issue.
Take time to see things from the other person's point of view.
Make all of your statements into questions.
Repeat what the other person said.
Be specific.
Apologize, even though it's not your fault.
Dare to be the person your spouse wants you to be.
Check-in, check-up but don't check-out.
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