Zen Dating and The Way of the Peaceful Dater
Zen Dating and The Way of the Peaceful Dater
The premise of these books is that when you are fully present you are vibrating at the same frequency as the energy of the source that makes fish, flowers, and thoughts. I am having fun with it. And, it turns out that when I practice this stuff I am not the puppet of my mind, emotions, and ego. At least not as much as before. As a result, I can often meet women anywhere, care much less about their reactions or what they think of me, and ironically have a lot more fun online dating; and most importantly offline dating.
The Theory:
When losing your mind and ego via meditation, chakra balancing, and other fun metaphysical activities, the energy in your body vibrates at a higher frequency. Some call this frequency your aura or vibe, etc... but quantum physics and the lastest metaphysical books now just call it vibrating at a higher frequency. When you vibrate at a higher frequency you think less, and you are more tuned in and present. For example, If you are a single guy vibrating at a higher frequency, you now have no problem approaching and meeting strange women in person: You can easily approach and strike up a conversation with a stranger at Target, the supermarket, the bookstore, Crate and Barrel or The Pottery Barn, Jamba Juice, anywhere: The whole world becomes one big fun club and the price for admission into the club is your good vibe.
Here are some techniques to help strengthen your "Inner Game"
1. Chakra Balancing:
Chakras are vortices of energy located all over your body. The center line running up your body has very significant chakras, and when they're in balance you can fly, like Wonder Woman. I am at the point where I can make all my chakras tingle on command via breathing and visualization. It's fun, it's freaky, and it gets me in Now much faster than reading about getting in the Now. For example, there is a heart chakra, its color is green, and it is located in the center of your chest. It runs though your chest (it's on the front of your chest, and on your back behind your heart.) The heart chakra spins clockwise on both your chest and on your back; So your front heart chakra spins to your left, and your back heart chakra spins to your right. If you can imagine your heart chakras (front and back) spinning simultaneously, and feel a tingle in the center of your chest, you are a natural. Try this during a long (around 7 seconds) inhale through your nose, and then again on a long exhale through your nose.
When your heart chakra is balanced you truly dig yourself just as you are: You accept yourself fully and you have compassion for others when you normally would hate them.
It's important to balance all your chakras, starting with the bottom (base of spine) and work your way upward. I recommend going to a metaphysical bookstore and getting an audio book that has some chakra meditations. Google "chakra balancing" and you will find some useful information as well.
2. Japa Meditation:
Japa meditation is where you chant a repetitive sound like; "Aaaahh", and simultaneously feel the object of your desire as if it is already manifested in your life. For example if you desire to be a best selling author, you chant on this desire and feel it as if it has already happened. Also, while chanting, make sure you feel energy flowing up the center line of your body: The energy flows up the center channel from your root chakra (base of spin) up through your body, and emanates out your third eye chakra (located a half inch up between your eyebrows.)
Japa meditation is fun to practice on the freeway while in your car alone, but bad if you have roommates and you care what they think. So save Japa meditation for the car ride if you wish to try it. If you live in Los Angeles chanting and meditation is pretty normal for many while freeway driving. And ninety eight percent of all Angelino drivers are listening to a metaphysical manifesting CD while drinking triple osmosis bottled water during their commutes - so you will fit right in. If you are on the east coast, just chant in-between telling other freeway drivers to f$#% off. If you are in the midwest, pass out fruit roll ups, or home made fruit pies, to other freeway drivers while practicing Japa meditation. If you are in Michigan, please turn out the lights if you are the last one to leave.
3. Taking Action/Talking to Strangers:
Talking to strangers will give you momentum (temporary confidence) to talk to more strangers. But if you are talking to strangers and also doing some sort of meditation work to make the energy in your body vibrate at a higher frequency, you will never need to talk to strangers as a tool to build temporary confidence again: You will just talk to strangers because you like sharing your super awesome energy with them - regardless of the results you get from doing so.
4. Make Dating and Romantic Relationships Secondary to your Passion/Purpose:
This is self explanatory. For example, if your a guy, and your dream/passion/purpose is to become a janitor, and you met your dream girl, but let her talk you out of pursuing a career in the custodial arts to focus solely on her, it's likely she'll drop you in a year or two. She may not be able to articulate why she lost her attraction for you because she is unconscious to the reason. Actually, she probably will be able to articulate why she is no longer attracted to you: The younger generations are more self-aware and advanced spiritually, so she'll probably think to herself: "You chose me over your passion? Now I no longer feel attracted to you because I feel much less yang (masculine) energy emanating from you. I also no longer feel enough trust that you can take care of things in a relationship since you gave up your purpose for me: I know I asked you to do that, but you weren't suppose to actually do it. But I do care for you so lets stay friends!"
5. Internalize Abundance:
I had the unique gift of having lunch with the founders/owners of Urth Cafe yesterday. If you don't live in Los Angeles this means nothing to you. If you do live in Los Angeles you know that Urth Cafe has multiple locations and is the most packed, most trendy, most hip, daytime scene in Los Angeles - at all its locations. If you watch HBO's Entourage Urth is the cafe used to shoot the daytime scenes of the boys hanging out and having meetings on Melrose. Shallom, one of the owners of Urth, said this to me in regards to the coffee industry and competition: "There is no competition, there is only abundance; there is more than enough to go around for everyone." Shallom has abundance internalized and does not view business or life as a competition. Ironically, if it was a competition Starbucks would surely lose. Either way, I was so happy to hear real life "Win/Win" speak instead of reading it in a Stephen Covey or Napolean Hill book.
Shallom's perspective applies to dating, too: Internalize dating abundance; There is no scarcity of quality people. There is no competition to win that one girl or guy over someone else. You always hear about a scarcity of quality people and you may currently believe that there is a scarcity, but there's not. Learn that concept internally, not just logically, but feel it, by practicing the daily metaphysical ritual that fits you best.
~Barrista
www.ItsJustCoffee.com
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