Years ago, when on a book tour for our book, "Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By You?", my ex-husband and I had dinner with a couple on the East Coast with whom he had become friends. I connected with Allison (not her real name) immediately. Warm and open, I could see that she was a deeply caring woman. On the other hand, her husband Ken, while overtly charming, had a huge black hole inside that felt like a vacuum cleaner sucking the energy...more
Did you know that people who try to spice up their lovemaking, often make their experiences LESS fulfilling? It's true.Over the years, I've seen couples make the same mistakes over and over again, when trying to improve their love lives, and I'd like to teach you how to overcome and avoid these problems.Here are the 7 lovemaking mistakes. Are you making them?MISTAKE #1: Feeling scared or embarrassed to talk about trying new thingsHave you ever...more
For the modern man getting back into dating after a divorce, I'd heartily recommend teaming up with your sister, a platonic female friend or a pal's wife. Women can provide you with a look behind the curtain and will give you excellent scouting reports, most of which you will ignore at your own peril. And, if you're lucky, they can help you relocate your long-lost mojo.Playing this role for me was my good friend Eileen. Shortly after becoming single, I emailed her, moaning about a woman I had a crush on but never thought would go out with me. Eileen emailed back, 'I don't want your sizeable ego to get any bigger, but you don't get it: you're one of the cool kids now.' And I guess she was right. My self-image was formed in high school. Since then, I had made some progress but never bothered to sync up my self-esteem with my reality. I had traded a dorky wardrobe and a Caesar bowl cut for artfully distressed jeans and overpriced tousled hair. I had a job. So it made sense that the same women who once would have adopted me as a mascot and bought me sandwiches would actually have sex with me.There were some other changes. A decade ago, I lived in a flat off the garbage room of a Warsaw...more
My marriage ended with a whimper, not a bang. After nine years together, my wife and I split up in a parking lot. Not that I didn't see it coming. There had been couples counseling, crying fits and final chances. She wanted to raise kids in a seaside town. I wanted kids, too: in the city. At least that's what we said the issue was. We were two...more
There is a great deal of confusion when it comes to women calling their boyfriends. In many cases, you will be advised that you should never call your man. However, this is taking things too far. It is perfectly okay to call him - the trick is to know when you should do it. There are some things you should bear in mind to help you determine the...more
One of the major things we usually grapple with as women in dating relationships is why the men stop calling. You may have been dating for some time and your boyfriend used to call. Then without any warning, he stopped calling. What could have happened? You may wonder. You may go through a lot of frustration as you try to find where things may have gone wrong. You certainly didn't have any argument. In fact, you were eagerly expecting his call. The issue of men who suddenly stop calling is discouragingly common. This is something that puts us in very difficult situations since we often don't know what to do because we don't know what happened in the first place. Take heart, there is an answerAs disheartening as the situation may be, you should not lose hope. You should know that there is always an answer. Yours is to determine what that answer is. Learn his psychological makeupIn many cases, the confusion results from the differences between the men and us. Men have a different psychological makeup, and it is important to understand this as you figure out what made him stop calling. Every person has strengths and weaknesses. Learn your guy's weaknesses and use them to your...more
There are very important considerations that you have to bear in mind when you are planning to get into a marriage relationship. It is unfortunate that many marriages end up in divorce while they should be life-long commitments. It is for this same...more
Many ladies are very concerned as to what things will make their boyfriends commit to marriage relationships. When you make comparisons, you will realize that only a few men go through the dating process and approach marriage in a breeze. Quite a...more
Many women go through long dating stages that make some of them lose hope in frustration. However, you can influence your boyfriend to commit to you only, and the process is easier than you imagine. It is very important for you to know these measures...more
While many of us go through long dating relationships as we wait for our boyfriends to propose, there are actually simple measures that can encourage the men to commit. Unfortunately, many women commit serious blunders in their efforts to make their...more
Many women who are in dating relationships are usually obsessed with the thought of marriage. 'Is he really ready to marry me,' you may wonder. This is something that bothers many of us since our male counterparts do not seem to be ready to commit as...more
Hey Doc!I just want to say thanks for helping to transform me into a better man than I was! Growing up, I had a dad that was often not available due to work. He and my mother would frequently get into fights with him screaming and yelling (he never...more