subject: My Ex Wants More Space! How Do I Get Him Back? [print this page] There are many reasons why your ex has asked for space; insecurities, fear of commitment, family problems, mid life crisis, the list goes on. You still love him so what do you do?
Well first off, give him his space. Dont whine, beg or plead. Let him go do his own thing for a while. You think I am nuts now, but trust me, it works. Use this time to have your space too, catch up with old friends youll be surprised how many friendships have been neglected while your time is tied up with your significant other!
Having your own agenda shows him it was his loss not yours too. Play a little hard to get not too much, you still want him to know you are available.
Dont overwhelm him with texts, calls, emails, cards or letters. He may actually need some time to get his head sorted for whatever reason, so dont smother him. If you do get signals he has feelings for you then keep communication friendly but brief. Keep drama and arguments out of any communication you do have, be his friend, be supportive, and be someone your ex appreciates having contact with.
Your ex will begin to show more interest in you if all goes well and now is your chance to drop happy and fun memories into your conversations. Make sure they are good memories for both of you; dont bring up the bad times. He really doesnt need reminding of the time he got so drunk he didnt make it to bed, fell asleep in the living room and peed in the pot plant (and all the arguments that followed) or any other such stories. Yes, you need to focus on funny things, but if they led on to arguments equivalent in size to world war 3 then dont bring it up.
While you are rekindling your relationship with your ex, stay away from any negative experiences. They are likely to bring up bad feelings and tension which will undo all your hard work so far.
If your ex is responding well to your chats and indicating he is interested in getting back together then open your heart up. Let him know how you feel. Try and plan what you want to say beforehand so you can be tactful and not stomp all over his feelings too. If you are both serious about rekindling your relationship it is best to start with a clean slate, get any problems out in the open so they can be solved before jumping back in.
Sometimes your ex wont respond to your advances and you will have to take that for what it is. Either he really does need his space or is not interested right now. Step back and dont force or rush things, let it happen slowly and naturally.
