subject: Pride Will Help You Win Him Back [print this page] If you ever picture yourself trying to win your ex boyfriend back, the scene might look as if you are pleading to the person directly for another chance. This usually requires you to go down to their level or even below which leads to a significant loss of pride.
The breakup may have gone a long way towards hurting your pride as it is, there is no need to further hurt your self image. There is no reason that you shouldn't be able to win ex boyfriend back and retain some dignity.
If you got dumped, it is understandable if you view yourself in a negative way. If you dumped the guy instead and later realize that it was all a mistake, you might feel that urge to beg the person to come back. That isn?t the right choice and could ruin all your chances of restoring your relationship.
If He Left You
Look back to the early days of the relationship and try to remember how he was attracted to you in the first place. Was your attitude any different than now? Compare your spirit now and back then.
Once you got the picture, all you need to do is bring the past to the present and show that his first impression represents the real you.
Whatever you do, let yourself be visible to him. Let him see that you are still the same person that he fell in love. If he doesn't notice you, someone else just might and that might not be a bad thing. You can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink. If there is another horse there, they may be more appreciative of what you have to offer.
If You Broke Up With Him
Admitting your mistake for breaking up with him is the first step for any hope of renewal. Show to him that you don?t have any expectations for things to bloom again and that you are willing to take any insult. You also need to accept any decision that he makes after admitting your mistake. Apologizing shouldn?t be left out either. It is okay to ask for forgiveness as long as you don?t beg for it. Again, begging for another chance is considered a turn off most people.
That is all you need to say before throwing the ball in his court. That way he can analyze you from his viewpoint and see if he is really willing to go back with you. A decision like this will always be tough as it takes a lot of courage to admit your mistake and accept the consequences involved. If the person realizes how special he is as you first showed him, he may just reconsider and start a new relationship with you.
Getting your boyfriend back is never an easy task unless you are a serious love expert. But if both of you think that things will last during hard times and go straight to the altar, then you can be optimistic of a new relationship to bloom.
Don?t run after him, but let him run after you. You need to give him that feeling to look for you again. Although it is difficult and can lead you to some humiliation, at least you can keep your dignity intact with a chance of getting your ex boyfriend back.
