subject: Seduction Secrets To Building Your Self Confidence Up So You Attract More Women - Part 2 [print this page] Author: Jay Sullivan Author: Jay Sullivan
When you see a woman you like in a bar or club, and think about going over to talk to her, your subconscious mind will start to play all sorts of tricks with you.
It starts to tell you all sorts of nonsense to prevent you from walking over to her and starting a conversation. These messages that your subconscious mind tells you, can be very easy to believe if you feel slightly scared or worried.
These NEGATIVE thoughts make you doubt that you may have any chance with a woman that you like, and are often in the forms of questions or statements that you tell yourself.
Some common questions and statements your subconscious mind might tell you are things such as:
She's too good for me... or She wouldn't be interested in me...
Why would she even want to talk to me? or She won't be interested in me, what's the point?
On top of all these doubts and negative thoughts, you'll probably find yourself wanting to go to the bathroom to make sure you look OK before you go over, or even delay your approach by telling yourself you'll make a move later on after you've psyched yourself up. But, the bottom line is this:
IGNORE everything your mind throws at you, don't delay your approach, and go straight over! Don't even give yourself room for thought. If you see a woman you like in a bar or club, and would like to talk to her...GO RIGHT UP TO HER!
Now I know this is easier said than done when in the heat of the moment, and that when your mind starts telling you things that give you a low self esteem, it can be hard to focus on your confidence.
So what we need to do is re-address the questions your subconscious mind tells you in this situation, and reprogram your thoughts, so that next time you see a woman you like, instead of your mind telling you negative things, they tell you positive things instead.
Let's go back to the common questions and doubts your mind tells you and readdress them:
She's too good for me....
Is she? How do you know? Maybe she is, but that's for her to decide and for you to find out isn't it? Once you start talking to her, you might be the one that realizes she isn't very interesting after all!
If you think that she is too good for you, you start to believe it, and will make yourself feel anxious when talking to her. Women are smart creatures and they will pick up on this, and you'll find yourself acting this way towards her. Your body language will be pretty much screaming I'm not worthy of you!.
Let's be honest here, if this is a woman you have just set eyes on, what could make you think that she is actually too good for you? We are all unique in our own way. Each one of us has good points and bad points. Nobody is perfect...
So, let's replace the negative She's too good for me... question with a positive question such as She seems to have lot's going for her, but I bet I can give her a run for her money!
What that does is let's you acknowledge her good points, but at the same time reminds yourself that you also have some great qualities that she might like.
It's replaced negativity with positivity!
Lets look at another negative question:
She won't be interested in me, what's the point?
The truth is, we all bring something different to the table, nobody is the same, if we were all the same life would be pretty boring right? If you don't think you are very interesting, then why should she aswell?
Let's replace this negative statement with a positive one:
She seems an interesting woman, I wonder if she would like some of my qualities?"
Now you're reminding yourself that you have great qualities that you can share with her! After all why shouldn't you have great qualities, you are YOU right?
There is nobody out there the same!
It is very important to replace all your self questioning thoughts with positive statements, so you you feel more confident in your approach.
Whenever you see a woman next time and you want to go and talk to her, your mind will be conditioned to put all the anxiety you ever felt behind you, and you'll be filled with positive thoughts.
You'll be surprised how this new found confidence gets mirrored in your body language and women will pick up on this right away, making them feel a lot more better about you, than if you oozed negativity.
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