subject: Getting UR Ex Back - 3 Definite Actions You Should Make! [print this page] Author: Jeff Gadley Author: Jeff Gadley
I know that getting ur ex back sounds all nice warm and exciting, but before you actually do that most experts in the area of relationship building suggest a serious check-up from the neck-up. In other words, make sure you have your head screwed on straight and your priorities well established before you do that "getting ur ex back together thing." Straight up to you! When making the decision of getting back together with your ex, at times you could have that little voice in the back of your mind that is causing you to have second thoughts on if you are make the right decision. Listen to that little voice. At least for a few days! Reality Check: Due to the stress of the breakup, you may not be yourself. Psychologists tell us, this is because you are emotionally stressed and could be somewhat depressed. You could also be confused, conflicted and in anguish over all that has occurred. So what should you do? Experts recommend that you not react in such an impulsive way. When you are feeling those kind of out-of-control feelings, that is not the best time to make any kind of major decisions, as far as, your ex lover is concerned. If your goal is getting ur ex back, then your focus should be on developing high quality relationship skills that you can consistently bring into the relationship over time. Good News! Most relationships can easily restore the greatness that they once had, and even go beyond to a whole new level, if the two involved are willing to work at it. 3 Must Do Actions - IF you are considering getting ur ex back. 1.> Take a time-out. In other words, you need to recoup and get yourself together. Crying is a very good thing! Acceptance of the fact that you have broken up is critical to your healing. Don't allow room in there for being mean and resentful. Do not say and carry out actions that you will only regret later on. Sure, you are in great pain, but it is vitally important that you show character, restraint, and superb judgment. 2.> Think hard and ponder the events leading up to the breakup. Evaluate slowly and methodically consider, quite heavily, what was the reason for the break up in the very first place. You have to be able to clearly determine the reason(s) that caused the breakup of your relationship. This is your starting point for rebuilding it, if that is your goal. 3.> For personal growth and self-improvement purposes read some relationship books, listen to self help cd's to further educate yourself about the dynamics of relationship building that are essential components to developing a long-term quality relationship. When you have completed those 3 steps mentioned above, it is time to reach out to your ex lover and let your new attitude of forgiveness, acceptance and ease of spirit to shine brightly. Look for opportunities for self-expression and meaningful conversation and encourage your ex to share their thoughts, heart and mind with you. Getting ur ex back can obviously improve your outlook on everything!About the Author: FREE Special Help Video! See It Right Away! getting ur ex back
About the Author
Jeff Gadley has years of accumulated experience working with people as a former RN and coach in the areas of health and fitness. Currently he writes crisis intervention articles for relationships in trouble; providing fast, effective, high-powered solutions for helping individuals repair themselves and their broken relationships. Get Free Monthly Tips and Advice! FREE Love & Relationships Newsletter. Go here - http://911BreakUpRepair.com/Newsletter.htm
