subject: Dating Advice You Can Use - Five Tips For Avoiding Future Relationship Problems [print this page] Everyone is giving you dating advice and they all mean well. What you need is just a little boost so you can relax and get to know this guy. These dating tips will help you relax and have a good time - but also pay attention to what is going on.
Too often, when we first start dating someone new, we get all caught up in the newness-and yes, in the excitement of the "chase"-we lose sight of what's really important. The five dating tips will help you remember #1 - have fun, but it is important to pay attention to who he is so you can make good dating decisions for the future.
*Listen. Listen to what he says and how he says it. Most people, rather than actually listening to what the other person is saying, spend their time thinking of what they're going to say next. Rather than gearing up to speak, or mentally rehearsing the one-liner you just thought of, practice really listening. Pay attention to what he's saying, to the tone of voice he's using, and watch his body language as he says it. All this information will give you much greater insight into his personality than whether or not he laughs at your jokes.
*Talk. Don't worry, you do get to speak. Be smart - don't do something that will make you wish this night had never happened. This is not the time to quiz him on hot topics like religion and politics - and save the ex-lovers for much later. Stick to safer topics like books and movies, travel, and career ambitions. This way you'll gain some valuable information about your date, without causing either of you to have bad memories of the evening.
*Observe. Learn to be observant about how your date acts in public, around his friends, and around his (and your) family. Some guys feel pressured to impress their friends by acting macho and tough in their presence. While this isn't always a reason to move on, it can cause difficulties down the road, so it pays to be aware. It's important to notice how he acts around his family. Does he treat his mother and sisters with respect, or is he a jerk? No matter how sweet he seems, if he's nasty to his mom, that's a warning sign you should not ignore.
*Feel. Pay close attention to how he makes you feel. Does your heart leap when you hear his voice, or does your stomach clench? They don't call them "gut feelings" for nothing. Even if your brain tells you he's a keeper, if your feelings say something else, they're worth paying attention to.
*Go Slow. This is the most important tip for any new relationship. Too often we see women meet a new guy and move in with him almost immediately. Spend several months getting to know someone before making any kind of commitment. Even exclusive dating is something to be pondered for a long time. Remember, you have the rest of your life to live together, get married, have kids, and all the other stuff that goes with an exclusive relationship. Why rush into it?
New dating partners are exciting and sexy, and too many times we let our common sense take a break while lust steers the ship. Once the excitement wears off, though, what's left? This is an important process - this is how you begin to steer yourself in the direction of "happily every after". Take your time and practice using these five tips to make your next relationship even better.
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