subject: 3 Simple Steps To Mastering Your Inner Game [print this page] Author: Rani Arsanios Author: Rani Arsanios
The Inner-Game is what makes up our inner reality and our inner reality is what drives us to achieve what we desire. Thus, one has to have a promising recipe for his inner game. In other words, we need to have the right ingredients to cultivate a strong inner core from which we can attract others. In this article we present to you the recipe that is discussed in the book Charm 101. The recipe is simple, effective and to the point. Before we continue, let us make it clear that the Inner-Game is everyones responsibility. As men and women, having a strong core is essential in our lives. To have a strong core, one has to work on plugging his IGHs or the Inner Game Holes. An IGH is defined as an inner unpleasant response towards a certain external stimulus. This is usually a result of an inner ineffective paradigm that causes us to experience Stress, depression, worry, anxiety, anger, boredom and fatigue and any other unnecessary emotions. Essentially, any bad emotion comes from an IGH. At ABN, we recognize that the charmers personal study of those IGHs gives him the power to overcome them. We all have different types and sources of IGHs. While we might have common IGHs, we certainly have our own unique ones. Those cracks are where our energy, self-esteem and self-love dissipate. 1.Locate an IGH and understand it functions. To be effective, one has to work on one IGH at a time. What are your IGHs like? Maybe your IGHs have to do with taking yourself very seriously, or having an inner voice of blame. It might be when you get lots of attention or when you meet strangers. It could be when someone makes a joke about you or when someone rejects you. There are endless types of IGHs including the ones that we have not discovered yet. No matter what it is, start by writing a list of all the IGHs you think you have. Decide which one you want to start with. Move down through the list as you get done with the previous IGHs. 2.Verbalize the IGH To eliminate any IGH, the charmer has to accurately verbalize the IGH. When, how, why, where and who are the five main questions that should be addressed for any IGH to be clearly defined inside ones mind. Then the charmer may start to use his intuition to dig inside his self to get a deeper realization of the problem. He may also examine the trend of this IGH over time. Is it increasing or decreasing? When did this IGH start to appear? And so on. Every question the charmer asks to himself brings a higher realization of the problem. With every realization, more tension is released, and more freedom of this IGH is brought to the charmers world. This is only half way of the solution however. Next, he sets the goal of reaching the exact opposite of that IGH. This is the key. The IGH definition is always a negative situation. The plug has to be the exact opposite of that. To give you an example, someone might have shyness when speaking with strangers of the opposite sex. He might identify the problem as, When I meet a beautiful woman in a bar or a caf in the presence of judgmental people, I feel introverted or shy Then, he has to resolve the emotion causing the shyness by identifying the mental paradigm causing the emotion. This is achieved through the Why? question. Is it because I am thinking of what she might be thinking of me or is it because I am expecting a negative reaction from her? Is it because of the judgmental people attending the conversation? Then he makes a zoom-in through these questions: When do I start feeling the emotion of shyness? What is a situation where I havent gotten shy when speaking with a stranger from the opposite sex? What was different? Does my reaction serve my best? What other reactions can I have instead of this one? All these are questions that provide higher realizations of the problem that releases pressures of that IGH. There is always a mental factor in the arousal of the unwanted emotion. Thus, the charmer is required to conduct a personal interview to further analyze his mental paradigm. 3.Plug it up After the charmer is done with the analysis, he may start to plug the IGH by forming a mental picture of the IGH being resolved. So in this case, he might imagine himself meeting this stranger in the same conditions, and being successful and comfortable. He has to repetitively imagine and hear himself being in the new comfortable state. Bit by bit, the new state is reached. Every time we rehearse the desired scenario, we condition our minds to behave so and eventually the desired results are met. To know more about the philosophy of the natural charmer or get your copy of Charm 101, visitTHE ABN PHILOSOPHY About the Author:
Rani Arsanios is the author of the book Charm 101. While this book is his first major project in the field of relationships, many people are anticipating more from this 23 years old man who always bring interesting philosophies to the table.
