subject: Winning Over Your Wife Despite Her Cheating [print this page] When you have just known your wife has long been cheating on you, there are quite a few alternatives for you to choose from: 1) retaliate it back to her, 2) dump her very hard, and 3) get her back to you.
All of these options may seem like worthy pursuits. Many of them might look like a good plan to do at the same time depending on your particular state of mind. The problem is that the average man is a "take action now" sort of man rather than a sit on it and let it simmer a while. This means a lot of damage can be done in the form of words that can't be unsaid and bonfires that involve every article of clothing she ever bought for you having been burned.
No matter how improbable and impossible you think your marriage will be restored, it is not the real truth. In order for you to rebuild the way it used to be (even you already made her go), there is still a way how to get her back into your arms. The bad news is how you can make her listen to you.
Try to call her and see if she will pick up the phone on its first ring. She probably wouldn't even on the fortieth call! If that's so, extreme but necessary action should be done to make her worship about every bit of word you express.
Do Nothing
Doing nothing is the best way possible. It may sound crazy and you may have doubt about doing nothing, but to tell you the truth, it works. It's a wrong move if you try to get her attention. Avoid actions such as calling, texting, emailing, driving by her office, visiting her favorite restaurant on her weekly girl's night out, or anything that she thinks you are chasing her is never a good move.
The Outcome
Beyond the expected, you will sooner be aware that you have just been successful in making her think about you more. Not being in her life as her husband is her greatest error. Living in this world without you is a pain she could not handle. Your absence makes her miss you more.
She will think about you more since she started missing you as this goes on. As long as you are willing to endure the wait, your wife will still call you and there is now a motivation for reconciliation.
Fortunately, this is what you must be expecting - she is finally ready to listen to you. A perfect start is a dialog wherein you can frankly state the issues that both of you will figure out; what went wrong with the marriage and how you can avoid problems like these in the future.
