subject: How To Be Willing, Able And Ready For Good Change [print this page] Willingness is the first step for good behavior change. Okay, so how is willingness produced, so to speak? Well, it is from knowledge. It comes from the awareness that there has to be changed. You will not repair your house if you think it does not need repairing. So it is the same way with our problems. For example, if you are a gifted child but then you are also an underachiever in school, then maybe you may think that simply passing your subjects is okay. However, once you become aware that you are wasting your gift, talent and skill for that matter, it is out of that awareness that your willingness to change comes. So be aware.
Are you able? Can you feel and believe that you are able to change? This seems ironic-that the more you can see how problematic the problem is, then the more you may think you are unable to confront it. And indeed, it would seem the more changes to be made, or if the changes are so challenging, you may think there is no good in being willing for change, if one is after all simply unable to do the change or be the change for that matter. But first, see what you have-that is your mind, your body and your skills. If you seem to think, you have nothing, seek a friend, a counselor or at least anyone you may think even just might be able to help you.
And of course-are you ready? When you see that you are able to change-are you complete dedicated to see that change? It is normal to second guess yourself, and to have doubts. But you must not let these stop you. Convince yourself that your present state is not the ideal life you are meant to live. Imagine what it would be like to be stuck in your mediocre life cycle forever. Then, proceed to imagining what it would be like to change right now. Once you've become more dedicated, make things ready.
Settle on your plan for self-improvement. Buy things you need to buy as needed. If necessary, know the people to consult and to consider. Do not think of doing this merely for yourself. You need to find your purpose. In doing that, you can make more sense with what you are doing-changing for the better for a better life.
