subject: Getting Back Together With My Ex Boyfriend. How? by:Frank McGinty [print this page] All relationships need work, and that involves making sacrifices and meeting the other person half-way. Bear that in mind if 'How can I get back together with my ex boyfriend?' is your burning question. Putting a rocky relationship, or even a broken one, back on track is not an easy task. But with effort it can be done. The secret is to give him a reason to return!
First step, then: Instead of moping over the question, 'How can I get back together with my ex boyfriend?', get busy discovering and putting right whatever went wrong.
Let's get busy!
It stands to reason that if you and your boyfriend/husband/partner have fallen out and gone your separate ways, then something went wrong in the way you related to each other. From his point of view the relationship went off the boil either because:
* you were not the center of attraction for him
* or he felt stifled by you (there was too much of you in the partnership!)
If either of these situations was operating, the relationship was doomed. So, to answer your question, 'How can I get back together with my ex boyfriend?', you should start by an honest self-examination. Be brave and face the truth. Which of these alternatives applied?
This can be further refined by trying to discover things you did that contributed to the breakup - or things you did NOT do, but perhaps should have. Maybe there was even a bit of both!
Take some time out.
* Go for a walk in the park.
* Retreat to your room for a while.
* Do whatever helps you relax, away from distractions.
If you're still asking, 'How can I get back together with my ex boyfriend?', make an honest assessment of how you 'operated' in your relationship. Write things down if that's helpful.
You'll soon realize there were things you had no control over - but there were others you can now work on.
If you are honestly convinced there were things over which you had no control, then put them aside. It goes without saying you need to home in on the things you did wrong, or the things you neglected. These can all be changed. And if you do, the chances of successfully rekindling your relationship are very good.
However, your soul-searching is not over yet! There's something else you must consider before taking action. It's this: Am I prepared to make the necessary changes? I know that if I do, I will probably be attractive to him again - but has he the right to expect that from me? Will you be sacrificing too much of your own identity or personality for the sake of winning him back? After a period of honest reflection you may decide: No, that's a step too far. I realize now he's not for me.
In that case, be glad. Yes, it may hurt for a while, but you'll feel much better once you move on. On the other hand, you may come to realize that there's much you can do - and are willing to do -- to save the relationship.
I hope by now you're aware that constantly asking, 'How can I get back together with my ex boyfriend?' is not enough. You must get busy. The advice above is only the beginning.
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