subject: Attracting Women - Don't Be Like Mike! [print this page] I want to tell you about a story about a friend of mine. I'll call him Mike so that he does not get embarrassed about me using his scenario to explain something to you. Mike's a good guy. He dresses nice, is in pretty good shape, and a lot of women will often compliment him on the way that he looks.
So, you are probably thinking that Mike does pretty good when it comes to women, right?
WRONG!
On paper, it would seem like Mike has it all and should have no problems at all when it comes to attracting women. To top it off, the guy even makes pretty good money. Yet, he still ends up sitting at home on Friday nights and wondering what the heck is wrong with him or what is wrong with women that they do not seem to want to date him.
The problem is, Mike is like most guys out there.
He believes that to attract a woman, you have to have your life in order and that you have to be really nice to her.
Mike has a lot of female friends, but they do not want to date him. They would much rather go hang out at the coffee shop or go out shopping with him. They even bring him out to the clubs sometimes, but when they do, they end up hooking up with other guys and Mike gets left in the corner.
So, what is Mike doing wrong?
He's approaching women the way that he sees in the movies, the way that makes sense to him logically, and the way that he was taught by his female relatives. And this is the same story that most guys have.
See, the way that you see in movies, it's written like that because it makes for a nice story, but like almost all movies, it has a lot of fantasy thrown in there to make it a little more appealing. And trying to use logic to attract a woman is like trying to speak Spanish to a person that only speaks German. It's not going to help you out at all.
Don't even get me started on the advice that female relatives will give you.
Unless you come from a really weird family, the women are NOT going to tell you the things that really attract them to a guy.
Truth be told, most women don't even really know what it is that attracts them to a guy. They just know that they are.
Try and get a woman that is dating a guy to really put into words what it is that separates that guy from all the others and most of the time, she will have a hard time explaining it. It just is. So, if you want to start attracting women with much more success, then you have to understand that the way that you are used to going about it does NOT work.
You have to do something different.
What SHOULD you be doing?
First of all, you need to get it out of your mind that it is HARD to attract a woman.
It's really not. It just seems that way for you right now.
Here's what Mike had to do to make some changes in his life:
1) He had to understand that attraction is not logical, it is more instinctual.
2) He had to realize that what looks good on paper, does not always seem so impressive in real life
3) He had to learn what a woman really wants and what creates and builds attraction to the point where she cannot stand it anymore
If you are a lot like Mike, and I can kind of bet that you are, then these are the shifts that you have to start to make.
And above all, you have to know how to have FUN with women!
