subject: Death of a Loved One - Can You Love Again? [print this page] Author: Colin Martin Author: Colin Martin The death of a husband, wife, or a significant other is a devastating event that is hard to get over. This typically unexpected situation unleashes a floodgate of emotions so strong it can feel like the end of the world, and for most people, it is the end of the world they were used to. Guilt, fear and loneliness are common and expected issues that we must face with the loss of someone dear to us. In time, these emotions can start to ease as we slowly pull our lives back together. But some fears can linger for decades above all the rest: Will I ever love again? Will I ever be thought of as special again? Is it possible to have another soulmate? I know these fears are real, I've had those exact thoughts myself. It is very easy to believe that there could never be someone so special as the one we lost. It's easy to spend years at a time not even bothering to look again for love. Nothing can touch the level of passion and love we have shared with a soulmate and a relationship like that is a once in a lifetime event. True...a relationship exactly like that is unique. But a new and powerful love is waiting. A love different than the last, yet as important to our lives as any other. You can have more than one soulmate. Our soulmates progress into our lives at different times for different reasons. A delicately balanced set of relationships give us the power and life lessons to make us stronger at every section of our lives. Just like chapters of a book, each one holds the story of who we are at unique moments of life, until we start to write our next chapter. Our stories are never completely written as we grow from one level to the next. There will always be another soulmate to give us support at these new ventures of our lives. Fear, guilt and denial can keep us from meeting the next person that we need to learn from and create our new and improved life. Again, just like chapters of a book, they grow in intensity as the book progresses and the culmination of experiences and awareness of the characters leads to the final lessons that we learn. We grow a little bit everyday, and so does our relationships. There will always be someone in our lives for the new person that we have become. A tragedy such as the loss of a loved one teaches us many things about ourselves. Things that make us stronger, grounded and more unique than the previous chapter. Meeting someone new can be very overwhelming...scary in fact. You may say to yourself "This can't be happening. This is too familiar of a feeling and I want to run like hell." This is probably a sign that a soulmate has entered your life. A soulmate that you have made a life contract with. This new relationship will be the perfect balance for the new person that you have become. No, it won't be like the perfect relationship you were in before...it will be totally unique and perfect for the time at hand. I know how you are feeling right now. It can be the most uncomfortable and confusing feeling you have ever felt. But realize you are never really alone. Your book is moving to the next chapter. And who wants to put a book down just as the story keeps getting better and better? How do you create an everlasting quality for your relationship today? For nearly 20 years one man, Colin Martin, has searched for and found the number one secret to building an exceptional romantic relationship. The answer doesn't lie in the endless volumes of self help books and repetitive talk shows ....but within yourself! About the Author:
Colin Martin has given over 2000 personal consultations to singles and couples alike to improve how they view their relationships.
