subject: Relationship Advice - Turning Jealous Feelings Into a Positive [print this page] Author: Colin Martin Author: Colin Martin
We have all felt jealous from time to time. From when we were small children wishing we could have the toys the other kids had to growing up and being envious of co-workers getting that promotion that passed you by. But the jealousy you feel when deep in the throws of love can be painful and destructive to an otherwise great relationship. Sometimes there is no reason to feel jealous and then there are times someone can drive you crazy with it intentionally. What is jealousy really? Let's take a look. Being envious can be a sign that you are not fully aware of the power you have and the position you are in. When you are in a relationship with someone special, you have to put aside all reason to suppose that your spouse would actually cheat, lie or screw up everything you have built with each other and all of a sudden, out of the blue, be more interested in someone else than you. Even though couples break up all the time, the signs are apparently clear sometimes for years that trouble is brewing. If you really look at yourself and you are happy with the person you are engaged with, jealousy will only rear it's head if you have totally lost site of the beauty and importance of the relationship. YOU are the special person that your lover has chosen to be with. No one else. Otherwise, they would be with THEM. You have to know in your heart and say to yourself: "She wants to be with me. I'm the one she has chosen." You have been placed above all else in this person's mind. There is absolutely nothing to fear when you realize the truth of the situation. When you look at jealousy in this fashion, your significant other is not in control of the situation and how you feel. It is all in your head. But you may react with anger, bitterness and frustration. This in itself, as you could guess, will cause terrible rifts in an otherwise perfect union. If your significant other is intentionally trying to make you jealous by being flirty with everyone she meets, or your husband won't let you go out with your friends because he is "jealous" or worried he may lose you, you are in the wrong relationship. 90% of jealous feelings, though, are brought about by a feeling of inadequacy in your own life. Get a grip on your importance. You are deserving. You are the best one for her. You can have everything and be anything you want. Try and turn this so called "negative" emotion into a positive by using jealousy to discover your full potential. To work the feelings out from envious to relaxed will give you the power of self worth and self realization you can use to change your reality, your life and your world. The power to stop jealous feelings can set you free. Knowing the full value of your rarity and beauty will stop "envy" in its tracks. You can't touch this! How do you create an everlasting quality for your relationship today? For nearly 20 years one man, Colin Martin, has searched for and found the number one secret to building an exceptional romantic relationship. The answer doesn't lie in the endless volumes of self help books and repetitive talk shows ....but within yourself! About the Author:
Colin Martin has given over 2000 personal consultations to singles and couples alike to improve how they view their relationships.
