subject: 4 Key Characteristics To Know Before You Say I Do
[print this page] Interestingly, the criteria for the choice of a spouse can be reduced to just four basic characteristics. If you can find someone with the four, then it is very likely that you have found your life partner.
1. What are the fundamental values of this person?
Before deciding to marry someone, make sure they are fully committed to some kind of objective moral and ethical standard. Whether we realize it or not, everyone has some kind of core value that is fundamental to his personality. So look for someone who is committed to the nucleus to a larger set of values that can be appreciated.
2. Does this person treat others well?
Number two is obvious: Would you marry someone who will take care of you and treat you well. How you solved it? Simple. Spend time with that person, and pay attention to how they treat others who do not necessarily care about because they are not trying to charm. Do thank the assistant who pumped gas for them? Are courteous to people in the boxes? Do not curse the people who do not deliver on time, as telephone operators or overworked waitresses? Do they tend to drive aggressively, as if no one else on the road?
Ask yourself questions like these and take note of the answers - because they reflect the characteristics that will go all over the line. Most people do not argue with such care that will cover how to treat others. So I watch them and know how you're going to try after you got married.
3. Do they communicate well with each other?
In other words, make sure they understand. This may seem obvious, but it is not.
Sometimes you can see a couple in a fight and advocate for an hour, two hours, even overnight. And then at the end of round 16, it was all a misunderstanding: "Oh, I thought he meant that ... That's not what you mean?" Ah, then we agree. "
Although occasionally this can happen to anyone, if you're going constantly, then it is a good sign because it cannot change. If you are constantly misunderstanding each other, then you might want to put this relationship on hold for a while.
4. We are physically attracted to each other?
Physical attraction is an essential part of marriage. You cannot marry someone if they are not physically attracted to them. And while men come to this conclusion rather quickly, women should give some more time. Very often a woman feel attracted to a man at first, but after she gets to know him she finds him much more attractive than before.
A word of caution: Although physical attraction is essential, you cannot base a marriage on the physical. What is happening physically is intended to be an expression of something profound is happening in the emotional and spiritual. The rule is - make sure that physical attraction is there, but do not be swayed by it. The other three features are so important, if not more.
