subject: What Not To Do If You Want To Win Your Ex Back [print this page] When you break up with the person you love you may experience many negative thoughts and consider ways of getting back at your ex. If you are wondering what to do and how you can get back together with your ex, then follow some simple common sense advice.
1.Dont play games.
Many people resort to playing games with their ex after a break up because it gives them a sense of power. Making your ex think you dont care or care about them more than you actually do is manipulation and it can feel really powerful and good at the time. This feeling doesnt last though and if anything good does come of the games and you win back your ex, it does not tend to last long as the relationship is tainted by lies.
2.Dont try and make your ex jealous
Trying to make your ex jealous by pretending to date or love someone else may occasionally work to win back your ex. Often the ploy just backfires as your ex thinks that you moved on so quickly because you did not care about them and the break up becomes irreparable. It is impossible to second guess which way you ex will view this trick until it is too late.
3.Dont be mean or nasty.
Sometimes we are so angry and bitter about breaking up we act more viciously than we usually would do. If you are serious about winning your ex back you will need to forgive them and put your hurt and pain aside.
You want your ex to be comfortable in your presence and enjoy spending time or talking with you. Examine closely how you act when your ex is around and modify your behaviour as needed. Do you nag them a lot? Do you shout at them? Do you start picking arguments? Learn to control your anger and pain and work on being someone your ex will miss when you are not around.
Winning your ex back takes commitment to self improvement and it is possible. Staying bitter and showing hurt and anger will only drive your ex away. If you are asking yourself What should I do to win my ex back? then hopefully you are looking for a serious relationship rather than power games to get back at your ex.
The answer is to be forgiving and let go of your anger. This will give your ex reason to remember what drew them to you in the first place and remember your good points. When your ex misses your company then you will have a much better chance of winning your ex back.
