subject: Dating Body Language - Is It Really Important? by:Kenny Wright [print this page] If you think that dating is all about your choice of words, then think again. When it comes to dating, nothing is more important than your body language. 'Speaking' the right dating body language is important because it tell your date what kind of person you are. The success of your date depends on your body language.
The body language is so powerful because it speaks directly to the sub-conscious mind. And it is not a match against verbal communication. Assuming you say you are excited, yet you keep your arms folded. Your date would read that to mean that you are not. But 'speak' the right words with your dating body language, and you can still win over your date even if your choice of words are not right.
You could also create attraction instantly by 'speaking' the right body language. This is important. On the other hand, if not 'spoken' right the very first time, you would not only turn off a date, but you would never be given a second chance. Sorry if I may sound harsh. But whether I'm harsh or not, it is the truth and if you want to success with your dates, you must learn to use the dating body language properly.
Below, I have outlines 5 dating body languages that will help you communicate effectively.
1. Good eye contact is essential. Do you know why people look away when they or others are talking? It is because they feel uncomfortable or have a lack of interest. If you look away when your date is talking, she interprets that to mean that you are experiencing feelings of tension. On the other hand, when you fail to maintain eye contact when you talk, your body language communicates insincerity. You can avoid communicating these negative messages by maintaining good eye contact both when you talk and when you listen.
2. Let your body do the talking where possible. Use gestures, smiles, winks and physical contact to communicate. Do so slowly. Don't overdo it.
3. Do not fold your arms tightly like you do in uncomfortable situations. That could be translated to mean that you are feeling insecure. Keep your hands open and inviting. For guys, spread your legs and occupy as much space as necessary.
4. Do not rush your words. Speak calmly and slowly. That leaves the impression that you do not lack confidence and security. When men speak slowly and confidently, they create an instant attraction to women.
5. Keep on smiling. Only tensed people smiling continually, so keeping your smile alive does not mean smiling at every word uttered. Smile only when it is necessary to do so. Smile and maintain close eye contact. A lively smile is not only contagious, it also crosses all cultural boundaries.
That's it. So what if you can't 'speak' this dating body language? Practice is the key. Go out more. Learn the language like you learn habits. Practice what you have learned by meeting more singles. It would not be automatic. You acquired your present body language over a lifetime. So expect it to take some time before you can replace the negative habits with positive ones. With constant practice, you will overcome your current negative dating body language.
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