subject: Getting Your Ex Back - What You Need to Succeed! [print this page] The key here is to make it look genuine (even if it isn't). You have to exude confidence and self-esteem, even if you feel insecure and weak. Fortunately, it's going to get easier as time goes on. In the meantime, if you run into your ex, treat them with respect and dignity. In fact, you can even charm them a little, as long as you don't start getting intimate.