subject: How Can You Get Back With Your Ex [print this page] What will I have to do to get my ex back? This question is usually asked by a least one of the people involved in the breakup aftermath. Many times the pain is so great that you cannot think of anything but rushing back and begging them to take you back. However, this is not your best plan of attack.
If you go rushing in without any clear idea of what you are going to say or do, it is very likely that you will fail. In many cases, it is possible to win back the one you love but only if you move toward that goal very carefully and with a well thought out plan.
Listed below are some things to keep in mind as you try to win back your ex.
Things You Should Never Do
Here are three things you should never do if you want to win back your exs affections.
- Do not become a nuisance by sending repeated text messages or e-mails, making numerous phone calls or any other form of contact. All this will do is convincing them that they were smart to get away from you because youre obviously unbalanced. Wait for some time before you attempt to make any contact and if your message goes unanswered, do not send another one.
- Do not start following your ex around and keeping tabs on what they are up to. Not only is this creepy and against the law, but if you should happen to find them in the arms of another person, you may fly off into a rage and do things you will regret later.
- Do not start believing in mystical solutions or that you can sell your soul to the devil to get them back. Not only will this send you that much closer to the funny farm, but if perchance your loved one does come back to you, then you have to spend the rest of your life worrying about the fate of your soul.
Things You Should Always Do
- If you really want to win back your ex, what you need to do is practice restraint. Give your ex time to cool off before you approach them. Only after their anger has had time to fade can you hope to remind him of the good times the two of you spent together.
- Follow their lead. If you try to make contact and you get no response then it is too soon. Wait before you try again. When he or she is ready to talk to you, they know how to get in touch with you.
If you should happen to run into your ex in a social situation, wait for them to make the first move. If you go running up to them and begin babbling about getting back together, youre only going to scare them away.
