subject: How To Get Over Your Ex....painlessly! [print this page] Broken relationships are not always easy to get over,and especially so if you are not the one who broke it up.
Also-the more mature the relationship,the harder the breakdown is to handle.
A short lived relationship is far easier obviously.If you have been through a sizeable chunk of living together-strong bonds are formed and it is tough to part.
Not to worry. It is not neccesarily too hard to be overcome-that is the good news!
There are certain things you can do to assist you in getting over a breakup,and we will take a look at them now:
First-put away anything that reminds you of your ex.
Yes,that can be tough. Clothing,ornaments,jewelry,photographs-etc.
Anything and everything that is a memory cue to your time with your ex needs to be removed.As hard as that sounds,it is pretty crucial in the scheme of things.
You may have masses of their "stuff" all over the place. You do not need to get rid of all of it right away.Focus on those particular items that have strong associations with them. I have found that perfumes (after shaves too) are usually in that category.
You may have jointly chosen items of furniture that are a major item in your home,like a bed ,couch or dining table and chairs. It can be literally costly to remove and relace these sort of things-but if they have strong links with your ex-you may have to go ahead.
It is not neccesary though to sell or give away those things-you could take the storage option.This is often the best route.
For a really quick method of overcoming a break up,you could go for the "cold turkey" method. That is if you are not feeling too vulnerable.
This way is for those who feel strong enough,because it entails raking through the debris of your lost relationship. You focus your thoughts on your ex's negative points-all the things about them that really rubbed you up the wrong way.
If nothing too bad comes to mind-take it as a sign that maybe you really ought to be thinking about getting them back.
The majority of us,though,can make up an extensive list of bad qualities in the lives of others. Strangely few in our own!
The most basic method to use to get over your ex is dating. that is if you are ready,and not feeling too fragile.
As long as you are prepared for it-there is no doubt that this technique is the daddy of them all,because it seldom fails in weaning you off in short order. But...only if you are certain you are ready.
It is not that dating in itself is the ultimate answer,but it is probably the choicest way to get over YOU,the "POMS" as we say in England...the 'poor old me syndrome'!
There is much more than I have touched upon here. Human relationships are notoriously complicated,as I am sure you know.That is why I write and advise on it so much. You can see similar articles I have on line. There are many books on relationships on the market, but the best I have come across is by T Dub Jackson. It is called The Magic of Making Up, and you can take a peek at it -- and see two great videos, by clicking on the link
