subject: Toxic Talk [print this page] A lot of people fall into what I call check-list thinking. They think they should behave a certain way to match where they are in life, so to them (dancing on bar counters) is not committed-relationship behavior. And that type of black-and-white, that was then, this is now' thinking lays the groundwork for a dull relationship. Even if you do tend to stay home on Friday nights watching DVDs together, guys want to think that you're night-clubbing, prank-pulling sex monsters who are simply choosing to take it easy. So a better way to talk about your desire to 'grow up' is to discuss what you're into now without mentioning the past. Talk excitedly about a dinner party you want to plan or a museum exhibit you'd love to see. Just never forget how much fun it is to make the occasional prank call.
