subject: What Should I Do If I Want My Ex Back? [print this page] Have you recently broken up with someone that you still care about? Or perhaps some time has gone by since the breakup but you just cannot move on because you are still in love with your ex partner? And that just Sucks! Especially if you have the accidental run-in with your ex, it seems like all of your feelings just surface and when you walk away you are back to square one with how much you are missing them.
If you are reading this article right now, you probably are going through something similar to this. The daily questions you ask yourself about your relationship and what went wrong; constantly checking your voicemail to see if your ex has called; hoping everyday that you will run into your ex, but then on the other hand hoping you don't because it would just make it harder on you, and the list could go on and on.
So what you should do if you Want Your Ex Back? Well first you have to realize that some changes have to be made in order for you and your ex to re-enter into a relationship again, otherwise what is the chance of that relationship surviving. Get that into your head, things have to change, and be willing to make the necessary changes.
Then there is your comfort zone. Get out of it! In order for you to make the changes that I just mentioned, you are going to have to get out of your comfort zone. You have to show your ex-partner that you are willing to make the necessary changes in your relationship and more than likely that is going to involve leaving that Comfort Zone. Think about all of the things that you liked in your relationship and all of the things that your ex-partner did not like in the relationship and be willing to leave your comfort zone to make the necessary changes. If your ex-partner loves going for a walk on Sunday afternoons and you want to watch that big football game, are you willing to give up your football game for a walk? DVR it for goodness sake and take that walk.
Try to set up a meeting with your ex to discuss your problems. Just simply ask them to meet you somewhere because you have a few things you would like to discuss with them. Whatever you do, do not appear needy or sniveling. That is a Huge Mistake. You want to appear strong and confident, that you can go on without them but that you prefer to be with them. Confidence in yourself can be a huge turn on. Do not try to make them jealous, that just makes them think that you have moved on and lowers your chances of getting back together with them. You want them to realize that you two were perfect together and that they were the best thing in your life and visa versa.
Take it slow and do not make them feel pressured or suffocated, especially if that was one of the reasons for your break-up. After your meeting, give them a little breathing room, let them absorb the things that you just discussed and hopefully realize that things can change in your relationship and that they really do miss being with you.
If you need more advice, or are still skeptical, you should really read the book by TW Jackson, "The Magic of Making Up", he also has a couple of free videos that I think you would enjoy listening to. Mr. Jackson has helped many couples get back together, and he has also helped people move on with their lives with or without their ex-partner.
